Last night, I had a reminder as of why I accomodate him so much. The doctor report suggested that too much accomodation was not healthy (even to avoid tantrum). So like a little soldier, i proceeded. Partner and husband were getting ready to go in the truck (no school today). Everyone says goodbye. V says goodbye a few times and Partner and husband walk away. I get the typical "one more bye, please, just one more". I take his hand, all the while holding Sweet Pea in my left arm, and nicely say that we all said goodbye and now Dad needs to go to work. Oh My!! All He77 broke loose. V is pulling on my hand, trying to escape and run for the truck. I take him in the house and block the door so I can let go of him. V is screaming, crying, stomping, falling on the floor, etc... A real maniac. He is choking in his cry and screams. I finally thought that was not worth it and we all ran to the truck for a last bye. Afterwards, all was fine for the rest of the night. Seriously doctor? Not accomodate ?? And in the meantime, I am suppose to have 5 positive interactions for every one negative interaction. It is all good on paper, ut it does not help me with unreasonable tantrums and requests.