drum roll please.... The function of behaviors is avoidance of academic requests and transitions! (shocking, I know) And her advice is to tell them that they need to not escalate him, as best they can, and then they have to ignore his behaviors before he will stop doing them. (and they paid money for this). I guess I should add that she had some strategies for them to use (you know, really "out there" things like, oh, visual schedules, and sensory breaks, and the incredible 5 point scale and how your engine runs - ALL of which were in my parent requests, and half of which they are supposed to be using now, but aren't), that she will write up (many more were requested with my parent requests and/or the advocates before the last IEP meeting). ExMIL also said she could see this woman had been "prepped" about us, and she could also see her "checking off" the stories as we interacted.