Problem son turned 19 yesterday

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by Billiesue, Aug 27, 2017.

  1. Billiesue

    Billiesue Member

    My son turned 19 yesterday. We had a party for him at my house. He is currently still living with his 19 year old girlfriend. This has lasted about a month. Still waiting to see if they run out of money and can't do this since I know he is still smoking pot. I feel like it is out of my hands unless he comes home. He showed up with eyes looking off. Not red. He always keeps a supply of Visine, but swollen. I thought when he hugged me he smelled like it. Hickeys on either side of his neck. OMG, he was raised better. Hard to know and not say anything. Occasionally I check his twitter which he doesn't know I see. They both work at Mcdonald's and are attending community college. He tweets, " Get up, go to work. Work a long ass time. Come home. Think about what happened at work. Get up do it all over." I thought that was funny. Welcome to my world. To make matters worse, they are going to a concert tonight. John Butler concert about 4 hours away. I told my husband it would be the perfect opportunity for him to get in trouble for the first time.
     
  2. pigless in VA

    pigless in VA Well-Known Member

    Hi, Billesue. Maybe focus on the positives tonight. He is working and going to school. He has a roof and a girlfriend. He came to see you for his birthday. If there is trouble, you will know soon enough.
     
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  3. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    I wish mine were doing that well.
     
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  4. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    I am envious of the line get in trouble for the first time. Sigh.
    I hope they are not driving under the influence.
     
  5. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Billiesue:

    Welcome. Yes agree with others. WISH my son was doing so well. Some people can smoke weed and function just like some people can drink alcohol and function.

    Unless he's using hard drugs I think he's doing pretty well! Enjoy your life and don't worry/be happy.
     
  6. Crayola13

    Crayola13 Active Member

    What are his grades like? His tweets indicate he hates McDonald's, so hopefully that will push him to stay in college.
     
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  7. Teriobe

    Teriobe Active Member

    Mines in prison, so hes doing good in my book
     
  8. Billiesue

    Billiesue Member

    Crayola-I don't know what his grades are like because he won't sign the paper to let me see them. Bless you Terilobe. I'm sorry. Thanks RNO
     
  9. There is an article in the Parent Emeritus section on Detachment. I think the prior poster's comments on counting your blessings is a great idea.