You know, so much drama happens sometimes; there just isnt the TIME to post about it all. Anyway, I saw this thread by BusyWend and it sums up my week with Daughter exactly. BusyWend says: I got Daughters progress report in the mail on Weds. I was crushed. Geometry: F Child Development: A (she LOVES the teacher) English ll CP: C- Biology: F Her school is on a Block schedule that is why there are only 4 classes. After three miserable years academically (and emotionally) I thought she was making a come back in her first year in high school. She made honor roll even (she was so thrilled). But, she failed Spanish (HATED the teacher)the first term this year. Like BW I have done everything. Hound, not hound. Etc., etc., and blah, blah, blah. The girl is nearly 16. Like another poster said they dont connect the dots. Daughter must be one of those who is dot connecting challenged. Anyway, Daughter was at a friends house and I went to pick her up. I waved the progress report in front of her when she got in the car (she saw the look on my face and knew something was up). She looked, didnt blink, and said well, Im getting a C in English. I exploded. A combo of PSTD, frustration, and exasperation. After years of encouragement, calm support, SSTs, and clinging to a thread of hope, I let the lion loose. She had no excuses. She claimed ignorance and confusion. Oh, and throwing away assignments because teacher never asked for them. She has excellence attendance and one had two absences from one class because of MD appts. So, that is not an excuse. However, she constantly has herself embroiled in school drama. The latest being that a girl is very angry with her because Daughter is talking to her boyfriend. She gave her a nasty note and claimed to have connections. Apparently, another girl had taken some video with a camera phone of Daughter talking to this other girls boyfriend and had shown it to the girlfriend.Daughter is now freaking out and claiming she has a "stalker". Thats just one incident. But, its constant drama. I have talked until Im blue in the face with Daughter about extracting herself from this type of stuff and also giving her some great come backs and advice on how to handle this type of thing so it will stop. But, everything I say is dismissed (Of course, Im the Mom and Im an idiot and dont know what its like today, blah, blah). However, she seems to seek it out. I have talked to her therapist about it, but there doesnt seem to be any workable solution available to us. Mostly, therapist thinks its about maturity. Plus, she has anxiety, which compounds everything. I teeter between involvement (probably over) and complete detachment. Neither is acceptable to me. Compete detachment feels like Im giving up on her, leaving her to drown. Too much involvement is frustrating and, frankly, I dont have the time like I did when she was in middle school (where the grassless path still remains from my many treks down to the office). Son is in the middle of Neuropsychological testing and we have two more appointments (all day) until testing is completed. Then, I will have meeting for the results. Plus, son is having testing done by the SD and I have meetings for that because he will be starting middle school next year. That is a whole another post regarding Son and middle school. While I have been writing this, I think I have come up with a plan on how Im going to handle all of this and keep my own anxiety in check. I am also moving the library AGAIN next year (three years in a row). Thankfully, it will be the last time because it will be in the brand new, and best of all, permanent building. So, that is also on my mind. Oh, and did I mention as I write this, workers are here trying to finish my new house addition? Son is currently sleeping on the couch because of all of the construction. We should be moving into it in the summer. Okay so here is the plan. Im going to make email contact with Daughters guidance councilor and touch base about requesting an SST (Student Study Team) for Daughter. That way I can meet with her teachers next year and hopefully make a connection with them. For this year Im going to email (best way for me to communicate) the two teachers in the classes she is failing and at the very least make contact.If they dont respond I will telephone and I will give them my phone number in the email if they want to contact. My goal is to keep contact on a weekly basis with them and in a general way know what is going on in class so that I can support Daughters schoolwork at home. Heres the kicker: Daughter wants to be a teacher. Adamant that she is going to college, where she is going, and that she is going to graduate. Talk about not connecting the dots! Shes a good kid for the most part. No major behavioral problems at school. I suppose I get so angry because she has so many advantages I never had. I wasnt a great student, but I certainly didnt fail my classes. I know, I know, she's not me, but I feel so resentful at times at her seemingly disregard of how D**N GOOD SHE HAS IT! Anyway, any further insight, opinions, and comments are welcome. Whew! I feel better.