Never thought I would be questioning anything about my child that I couldn't figure out on my own. I have 2 sons a 6 year old and a soon to be 4 year old (in Oct.) Never went through anything I couldn't handle with my oldest, but with my youngest I question myself every day it seems. A little background on my yougest. He was breastfed until 2 years of age (self weaning) hit all his milestones crawling, walking, speaking, and toilet training (etc.). I was always told by his daycare (which he has gone since he was 6 months of age due to both my husband and I working) that he is a very strong willed baby/child. For example he could never be placed in a high chair as he would be out in seconds and sitting on top of the tray (yes even strapped in but not too tight as we nor they wanted to hurt him). Same goes for this carseat I can't really remember the last time I could get him to stay in one. I continue every day to speak with him about the saftey of the car seat and he tells me he understands yet once we leave the driveway he is already getting himself out (he pushes down the saftley bucklet as far as he can and slips his legs and hands out over top of the buckle). The only way I can get him to stay in a carseat is if my husband is in the passanger seat and I keep my rear view mirror on him and as soon as I see him start I tell him to please stop and stay in his carseat and then my husband will keep an eye on him. If you take one eye off him he starts trying again. When he does get out (which I hate admitting is often) all he wants to do is sit in his car seat and be able to pull his legs up close to his chest or have them hanging off the sides. He was never able to stay in a crib as he was always climbing out (at home & Difficult Child) so he moved to a toddler bed fairly early. He's never been a sleeper or well just sleep in general his naps stopped shortley at the age of 1 1/2 at home. Now he will take a nap if he has been extremely exhausted I mean if we have been at it all day non stop for nothing..lol His older brother goes to bed between 8:00-9:00 he goes to bed between 10:00-11:00 and even then that is just in bed once I close his door he is up jumping off his bed, climbing the dresser etc. I usually let him play a little before I go in and tell him it's time to sleep then after about 3 times he finally gives in. Then he is up at the crack ass of dawn as I would say..lol He has the hardest time sitting still lets see breakfast lunch and dinner he can't sit still he is up moving about while my husband, older son and I are sitting down at the table. He wiggles his legs, spills things and spills things constantly and just gets up out of his seat and walks around then comes back to the table and it starts all over. Also when meal time comes I noticed he shoves very large amounts of food in his mouth at once. I try helping him showing him to take smaller bites, but he says he can't that he has to have his mouth full. I've never seen anything like that before. I cut his food into small portions and he just rakes them up on the spoon or fork and just keeps shoving. If I leave him with larger portioins he does the same but usually winds up in him gagging. I spend a lot of time outside with my boys obviously my youngest is in daycare M-F 8:00-5:00 as I work, but as soon as we get home we go outside. I interact with both my boys we toss the ball, I push them on the swings, we climb the climbing dome, dig in the dirt etc. But with my yougest it's different. We will be tossing the ball then with in just a few sec. he runs over to the swing and demans I push him. I go over and start pushing him just after a few pushes he jumps down and wants to dig. We dig maybe a few sec. then he is at the climbing dome, then after a few sec. we are passing the ball again. It's like he can't keep focues on just 1 thing at a time. I try to get him to and tell him we are going to pass the ball for 5 min. then we will swing but he can't even last 5 min. Everything we do I know he enjoys, but it just seems like he can't stop for 5 min. to finish. It gets a little frustrating. When we go on walks both my boys know they need to stay near me but regardless of how many times my yougesnt just takes off flying running really far infront of me which results in me taking them both back home which isn't fair to my 6 year old. Same with bike rides that is a joke and I can't even let them because of my 3 year old. I hate putting the blame on him when I know as a parent I feel like I failing everyday. Yesterday his daycare was closed and with school being out I had to take both the boys to work with me. I work for a small company that needs me hear regardless so they were okay with me bringing them (I do keep items at work with me toys, coloring books, balls, games, ect.) I noticed through out the day my 3 year old kept screaming. Nothing would be going on he would just be sitting on the couch (wiggling..lol) and then just out of no where bolt out a very loud scream. I asked him why and he says I don't know. I explain to him that we use our inside voice but it doesn't matter. When I take him into the store it's well crazy. I now go grocery shopping at night when my husband gets off work at 11:30 pm. My yougest can't and wont sit in the cart. He runs ahead of me and bumps into other ppl. I don't get temper tantrums. Which I find stragne. He doesn't go off and scream kick yelling crying. Also when we are watching tv which is usually animal plant both my boys love animal plant. They will both be sitting and doing just fine then out of know where once a commercial comes on my yougest will hit his older brother or me or the dog or what ever is near him (daycare has this problem as well). I don't know I guess the list could go on and on you know. I love doing things with my boys taking them to parks going on walks, playing outside, playing board games but it seems like all my focus and attention winds up on our yougest. We we play games like candy land He can't wait his turn he tosses game pieces, bends cards and just walks away. I've never seen him sit down for 5 min. (not talking about tv) and just play with something. He losses focus very easy. It's very hard to talk with my son as well. We were at a gas station a this morning and I had both the boys with me inside. I let them each pick a piece of candy and we were in line waiting and my yougest just couldn't stand still he knocked over bags of chips (on accident he ran into them) so I got down to his level to talk with him and he shoved his head in my face and said mommy do you smell my hair mommy huh huh do you smell my hair and started bursting out laughing. I don't know where that came from. I asked him in the car why he did that and he said cause mommy you are always talking to me and I don't want to talk anymore. I know daycare has problems with him as well. He has been wrote up and placed on red a lot, but never kicked out. They just tell me he's got a lot of energy (hyper) strong willed and hopefully he will outgrow it. He doesn't stay in his seat when they are doing certain things like coloring, class work, circle time. I just want to see if I need to speak with his doctor. about any of this. I mean he has a ton of personality let me tell you my day is never borning and he always makes me laugh. I forgot to mention his climbing... I probably forgot to mention a lot of things. He climbs my hutched, kitchen table, car, and dressers well just anything he can climb he will. I go through this daily as well. I don't know what to do. I worry so much and I do redirect but regardless how many times he goes back at it. As far as discapline goes I've done time outs, taking things away, not allowing him to do things with me, spanking (which I hate) etc. I also do a reward system for both my boys if they have had a good day and stayed out of trouble at school/daycare (staying on green) they get a piece of candy and change to put in their piggy banks. I also will give them candy if they have done something nice/good. Like helped clean up or played well together. I know I"m not the best parent in the world, but I do try my hardest. I was just hoping for some input/advice on what others think. Any advice or help would be much appriceated