Hello all-- I wanted to thank each of you for recommendations you've made to me over the last 3 months...I've read several books recommended by you that were highly enligtening (just finished 'When your adult child breaks your heart'-- thanks COM)....and have found out about resources like Families Anonymous (which by the way, I haven't found locally but still looking)...since so many of you are my heroes and have been working at this process of 'detachment' so much longer than me, so I wanted to compile a list for myself of: 1- can you share the 1-2 favorite most helpful resources you've used to understand what is happening with your difficult child? 2- what are the 1-2 things you do to take care of yourself during these times (I'm one who has a chronic illness that has been exacerbated by all the stress)--- we seem to have several runners/joggers- that won't ever be me...what do you do to feel better? 3- what have you done with your husband to help keep the 'love' alive and the bond between you growing even in the darkest of times? 4- what have you done to figure out where your higher power/spirituality fits into all of this? (e.g., I've tried yoga, really like it, and it seems to be really helping me when I do it) Can't wait to see what you recommend!