Pens with purple ink. Or turquoise. I got one of each, and a new notebook the other day, when husband came home from Costco with surprises for me. I've been going a bit bonkers making lists ever since. Lovely lists, written in long-hand.
And yes, Dixies_fire, it will get better. It's hard to keep that in mind when you're stuck in the middle of it though. Sometimes all you can do is keep breathing in and out. Focus on the next hour, or minute, if that's what it takes.
A few more favourites:
The "purple ones" that are beginning to sprout in my front garden, and the "red ones" out back. They were planted by the previous owner of the house about 20 years ago, and they bloom like clockwork every year without any intervention from me. The previous owner must have been a fabulous gardener, 'cause all the plants are lovely, but they're nothing to do with me. I just get the credit for them. Whenever people come over, they start asking me detailed questions about the garden. I usually answer "The purple one" or "That's the one with the poky-outy leaves". That's about the extent of my gardening knowledge.
(If they really want to know, I send them to my neighbour across the street, who has a degree in horticulture)