We had an appointment today with the same old psychiatrist my difficult child has been seeing (new doctor starts next month). They sounded concerned, on the phone when I called them and told them that she had experimented with cutting, and acted like they finally agreed that maybe she needs to have a Mood Stabilizer to go with all the stims... First of all, it is my understanding that while they still take cutting very seriously, it doesn't have the "stigma" that it used to because it supposedly goes around schools now like some fad. Anyway, that is NOT why we were looking for mood stabilizers, it is the already agressive behavior being made worse by stims with nothing on the other end to combat that. Anywho, when we got to the subject of her raging and violent behavior, you will NEVER guess what this woman said to me!!!!!! There was no lecture on "picking your battles" or saying to me, "some kids respond better to (such and such) instead of what you are doing now..." NOTHING!!!! All I got was,if you want to avoid the rages, if you ask her to do something and she refuses, don't make her do it. And she said this RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY difficult child!!!! I cannot even begin to explain all the things that came to my mind, but the first of which being the fact that my difficult child already feels that her refusal to cooperate is VALIDATED simply because SHE DOESN'T WANT TO, which we are trying to teach her is NOT a good reason!!! HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO TEACH HER AND RAISE HER TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT, EVEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO WITH A METHOD LIKE THIS????? We are not talking about complicated things here, we are talking simple things, that are a NON NEGOTIABLE MUST, like putting on a seatbelt in the car!!! ARGH I WAS SO FRUSTRATED, and the only thing that calmed me down at that point was that after today, I NEVER EVER have to see this woman again!!!!! Please tell me that none of you have seen a psychiatrist that has suggested this method!!!!!! Well, goodnight all!!!