"What are the consequences of allowing another person to persuade you to step out of your integrity? What happens if you are not true to yourself? It sets up a dynamic that eats away inside of you and brings out the worst in you. It diminishes your presence. It isolates you."
I think this is the situation we all find ourselves in with our adult children. Our agony results from betraying our own values, as well as pain that arises from their situations.
Because we love them and we fear for them we think we are obligated to tolerate their bad behavior towards us. We betray them and ourselves as their parents because above all they depend upon the integrity and strength that we model when we stand with purpose and truth that is us.