Hey guys and gals,
Could use some extra thoughts and hugs my way right now. Feeling pretty overwhelmed with things and about ready to blow a fuse. I hate to complain-vent but since I have no one else to really talk to about it, I am glad that I can speak about it on this board. It does help to take the edge off, and I am thankful for that.
Wife has been working the 2 jobs. Second as I have stated was completely her idea. She did that right after she went out and bought the van without discussing it with me. She had in her mind that we did not have enough money to cover everything because she seemed to run out of money before her next payday. That is because she binge spends almost immediately after each pay cycle. The reason that we don't have credit cards,
Any way, she gets only a few hours sleep each day with this situation. The kids hate that she is always at work, and she knows it. She is doing hardly anything, and I mean very very little, around the house to keep things running. When I got sick with the flu, all the clothes for the house backed up. She did one load the entire time I was sick in bed. With five kids and two adults , we produce approximately 3-4 loads a day of dirty laundry. You can now picture how our laundry room looks. Dirty clothes piled high and over flowing. She was off yesterday from both jobs, well was supposed to be off all day. She was home during day light hours. When I left for work yesterday, she was going to rest a bit then get up and do laundry. We discussed it and she said she would. Fast forward till when I come home at 7:00pm. (Had to deliver a piece of furniture about 30 miles from our town, after we closed the antique shop). Nothing and I mean not a single thing had been done the entire day when I got home. Add to that she was sleeping across the bed. She did at least throw some frozen dinner in the oven for the kids. Did not fix anything with it for the kids. They need good healthy balanced meals. That bothers me a lot, but I simply can not do all the house work, all the cooking, all the laundry, getting all 5 kids up everyday and ready for school, do my three jobs, and add the other various things like help kids with homework, yard work, house maintence, etcc (you get the picture). Late at night is my only quiet time when the kids are in bed, and she is gone to work. I tend to end up being up till midnight or so and then have to be up by 6am to get the kids going and start my day.
The only good thing about wife working all these hours, is she is not home to unload on me, ! She did decide that she was going to pay all the house hold bills and such this month since she gets a check from both places every two weeks. That will surely bite me in the A ** some how. She will end up saying, "She paid all the bills, so I should not complain" or some such. I tried to tell her to do it the way we have been with each trying to cover half. She said no she wanted to do it this way this time.
Ok, all of that to ask this, LOL LOL!!! Can anyone relate to the above and can you offer suggestions on how I can get things to work smoother if I am going to have to do everything. My mom did FLY LADY for a while and this seemed to help them, but I don't know if I have the energy to try and completely grasp all the things the program requires to work successfully. Any suggestions on what you do to help things work better??????
Sorry to unload, but I do feel a bit better after typing this, so thank!!!!!!!
Tpaul
Could use some extra thoughts and hugs my way right now. Feeling pretty overwhelmed with things and about ready to blow a fuse. I hate to complain-vent but since I have no one else to really talk to about it, I am glad that I can speak about it on this board. It does help to take the edge off, and I am thankful for that.
Wife has been working the 2 jobs. Second as I have stated was completely her idea. She did that right after she went out and bought the van without discussing it with me. She had in her mind that we did not have enough money to cover everything because she seemed to run out of money before her next payday. That is because she binge spends almost immediately after each pay cycle. The reason that we don't have credit cards,
Any way, she gets only a few hours sleep each day with this situation. The kids hate that she is always at work, and she knows it. She is doing hardly anything, and I mean very very little, around the house to keep things running. When I got sick with the flu, all the clothes for the house backed up. She did one load the entire time I was sick in bed. With five kids and two adults , we produce approximately 3-4 loads a day of dirty laundry. You can now picture how our laundry room looks. Dirty clothes piled high and over flowing. She was off yesterday from both jobs, well was supposed to be off all day. She was home during day light hours. When I left for work yesterday, she was going to rest a bit then get up and do laundry. We discussed it and she said she would. Fast forward till when I come home at 7:00pm. (Had to deliver a piece of furniture about 30 miles from our town, after we closed the antique shop). Nothing and I mean not a single thing had been done the entire day when I got home. Add to that she was sleeping across the bed. She did at least throw some frozen dinner in the oven for the kids. Did not fix anything with it for the kids. They need good healthy balanced meals. That bothers me a lot, but I simply can not do all the house work, all the cooking, all the laundry, getting all 5 kids up everyday and ready for school, do my three jobs, and add the other various things like help kids with homework, yard work, house maintence, etcc (you get the picture). Late at night is my only quiet time when the kids are in bed, and she is gone to work. I tend to end up being up till midnight or so and then have to be up by 6am to get the kids going and start my day.
The only good thing about wife working all these hours, is she is not home to unload on me, ! She did decide that she was going to pay all the house hold bills and such this month since she gets a check from both places every two weeks. That will surely bite me in the A ** some how. She will end up saying, "She paid all the bills, so I should not complain" or some such. I tried to tell her to do it the way we have been with each trying to cover half. She said no she wanted to do it this way this time.
Ok, all of that to ask this, LOL LOL!!! Can anyone relate to the above and can you offer suggestions on how I can get things to work smoother if I am going to have to do everything. My mom did FLY LADY for a while and this seemed to help them, but I don't know if I have the energy to try and completely grasp all the things the program requires to work successfully. Any suggestions on what you do to help things work better??????
Sorry to unload, but I do feel a bit better after typing this, so thank!!!!!!!
Tpaul