I have a very good friend whose son just left for Iraq. They have a large family and the entire family met together during the deployment time. This took place in another state. Now, she and her husband are back home. Most of the family went their separate ways...other states, etc. She and her husband have some other stress in their lives (to make things more complicated). My friend is a wonderful person. Very giving, patient and kind. I can count on probably three fingers the number of people who have truly helped me with difficult child and she is one of the three...helping me the most. It is obvious when I talk with her that she is under significant stress. AND, I don't know if it is my imagination or not 'cause I normally watch little news, but it seems to me that in the last few days, I have heard more stories about violence and deaths in Iraq. Primary Question (s): For those of you who are very close to this situation, can you give me some up close and personal advice on what I might say to her to make her feel better? Also, will I be able to email him (her son) and will he be able to write back? How often? How practical is this? A second question: During the Vietnam conflict/war....we saw lots of footage of what was going on. Why is it that we do not see photos/footage of Iraq for the most part? Thank you.