KC but no sunshine band
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Good Monday morning all!
:coffee:
As many of you know, I landed here just a short time ago during a major meltdown. A short recap to bring everyone up to speed: The meltdown was due to being torn between my husband and my difficult child. I had played referee for years and it came to a head. Once I identified the cause of the meltdown, I had a chat with husband and difficult child and told them they needed to stop their fighting as well as putting me in the middle. Since that time, they have calmed down considerably and life in general is much more sane. Also since then, husband has expressed his frustration over how much time we spend talking about difficult child and how to deal with him. husband feels like we never talk about anything else and rightfully so. With four other kids, why does everything always revolve around difficult child? My suggestion was, ok... when difficult child goes to bed, there is no more talk about him. husband said that was a good idea. Since then, we have kept to respecting that boundary and husband seems much happier. I also took husband out for a long overdue date. Sometimes in our crazy lives, we forget to or perhaps don't have the energy to do things that we need to do for ourselves and our partners. This week, perhaps we should all try to set aside some special (adult) time just for ourselves and/or our partners. Have a great meltdown free week everyone.
:its_all_good:
Kathy
:coffee:
As many of you know, I landed here just a short time ago during a major meltdown. A short recap to bring everyone up to speed: The meltdown was due to being torn between my husband and my difficult child. I had played referee for years and it came to a head. Once I identified the cause of the meltdown, I had a chat with husband and difficult child and told them they needed to stop their fighting as well as putting me in the middle. Since that time, they have calmed down considerably and life in general is much more sane. Also since then, husband has expressed his frustration over how much time we spend talking about difficult child and how to deal with him. husband feels like we never talk about anything else and rightfully so. With four other kids, why does everything always revolve around difficult child? My suggestion was, ok... when difficult child goes to bed, there is no more talk about him. husband said that was a good idea. Since then, we have kept to respecting that boundary and husband seems much happier. I also took husband out for a long overdue date. Sometimes in our crazy lives, we forget to or perhaps don't have the energy to do things that we need to do for ourselves and our partners. This week, perhaps we should all try to set aside some special (adult) time just for ourselves and/or our partners. Have a great meltdown free week everyone.
:its_all_good:
Kathy