Detaching may be a good goal, but I prefer my daughter safe and home for now. She had quite an adventure for herself, up to and including sleeping behind a bank, spending two days in a serious gang/doper town/area, walking for miles with no clue where she was. She lasted with the carney for 2 weeks until a girl threatened her and she got scared and quit. After that, the wandering occurred for the next week. She finally called me and asked to come home. I quite happily picked her up. For now, she is a different person. She told me she did some thinking on this journey and came to the conclusion she needed to be part of this family, that I deserved better and that she was going to try much harder. I don't expect the attitude to stay, but I will certainly enjoy it while I can. She has decided that she does want to move with me even if it is a retirement community and there will be no one there her age. Her goal is to find a job there, save her money and be able to move out in an adult, responsible way within two years. Who knows if she will succeed but I'm certainly willing to give her a chance to try. This is truly the first time she has ever had true, realistic goals.