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Nana's are Beautiful
My mother-in-law is 94 yrs old, and has the two grown boys. husband's Dad died about 12 yrs ago.
Every since we moved to Ohio we've been doing stuff for husband's parents. Not that I really minded as I adore my mother in law and father in law was great too. And husband's brother and family had moved to this lil town we're in now. I'd help get them to doctor visits, hospital testing, grocery shopping, take care of them after surgeries ect, husband with the yard and repair stuff.
When husband's Dad passed away mother in law decided to move away from Dayton to this small town we're at now. A year later we moved here too. So now the whole family is in the same place.
So once again I'm the one to help mother in law with doctor appoints, ects, husband with the yard ect. At least until I started school last fall. Then husband's brother and wife did the bulk while we filled in the edges.
mother in law is barely navigating her own home due to crippling arthritis. She uses a wheeled walker, but really needs to be in a wheelchair. (won't use it) Still is as sharp as a tack, but has had 2 strokes in the past 2 yrs. Is now homebound except doctor visits.
Out of the blue about 2 months ago husband's brother and wife announce they're moving to Virginia. Now husband has no real relationship with his brother, so we found out via mother in law, who was just as shocked as we were. They sold their house and moved within a months time. (how's that for fast) And their grown children also moved their families to Virgina.
So now all responsibility of caring for mother in law rests completely on me and husband. And I've been simmering at a low boil since we got the news they were moving away.
They knew that as soon as I was out of school I was looking for full time work since we really need the money cuz husband is still working for the temp co. Well, that'll be a bit hard since I'll have to keep my schedule open for doctor appoints and such, and try not to even think of her getting sick. Not to mention husband and I are once again the ones tending to all her needs. easy child can't help a whole lot with school, work, and her own family. Although her husband does do the yard work.
Don't get me wrong, I love mother in law like a mother. And I don't mind doing stuff for her, never have. It's just that her physical situation is naturally deteriorating and we've been left to deal with it while husband's brother's family has run off to retire in their dream location. No worries for them.
The low down if you made it this far: husband and I have cared for his Mom for the past 20 some years. His brother and wife do it for a year, then up and decide to move out of state with an aging ailing mother. And not just them, but their extended family as well. And husband and I are now left holding the bag again so to speak. We're all the family the woman has that isn't in Virginia.
Oh, to try to ease their guilt, they attempted to force mother in law into an assisted living place. She flat out refused.
Every time I let myself think about it, or husband asks when I'm going to hunt for a job I start to simmer. I mean, good grief. She's 94, how much longer is she going to be around? They couldn't wait a few more years?? And this is supposed to be the "perfect son". Ugh.
So how would you feel?
Every since we moved to Ohio we've been doing stuff for husband's parents. Not that I really minded as I adore my mother in law and father in law was great too. And husband's brother and family had moved to this lil town we're in now. I'd help get them to doctor visits, hospital testing, grocery shopping, take care of them after surgeries ect, husband with the yard and repair stuff.
When husband's Dad passed away mother in law decided to move away from Dayton to this small town we're at now. A year later we moved here too. So now the whole family is in the same place.
So once again I'm the one to help mother in law with doctor appoints, ects, husband with the yard ect. At least until I started school last fall. Then husband's brother and wife did the bulk while we filled in the edges.
mother in law is barely navigating her own home due to crippling arthritis. She uses a wheeled walker, but really needs to be in a wheelchair. (won't use it) Still is as sharp as a tack, but has had 2 strokes in the past 2 yrs. Is now homebound except doctor visits.
Out of the blue about 2 months ago husband's brother and wife announce they're moving to Virginia. Now husband has no real relationship with his brother, so we found out via mother in law, who was just as shocked as we were. They sold their house and moved within a months time. (how's that for fast) And their grown children also moved their families to Virgina.
So now all responsibility of caring for mother in law rests completely on me and husband. And I've been simmering at a low boil since we got the news they were moving away.
They knew that as soon as I was out of school I was looking for full time work since we really need the money cuz husband is still working for the temp co. Well, that'll be a bit hard since I'll have to keep my schedule open for doctor appoints and such, and try not to even think of her getting sick. Not to mention husband and I are once again the ones tending to all her needs. easy child can't help a whole lot with school, work, and her own family. Although her husband does do the yard work.
Don't get me wrong, I love mother in law like a mother. And I don't mind doing stuff for her, never have. It's just that her physical situation is naturally deteriorating and we've been left to deal with it while husband's brother's family has run off to retire in their dream location. No worries for them.
The low down if you made it this far: husband and I have cared for his Mom for the past 20 some years. His brother and wife do it for a year, then up and decide to move out of state with an aging ailing mother. And not just them, but their extended family as well. And husband and I are now left holding the bag again so to speak. We're all the family the woman has that isn't in Virginia.
Oh, to try to ease their guilt, they attempted to force mother in law into an assisted living place. She flat out refused.
Every time I let myself think about it, or husband asks when I'm going to hunt for a job I start to simmer. I mean, good grief. She's 94, how much longer is she going to be around? They couldn't wait a few more years?? And this is supposed to be the "perfect son". Ugh.
So how would you feel?