I have recently joined a forum here in France for parents of ADHD children. This is helpful in terms of showing me that there are in fact all sorts of things in place that I have not come across in this part of France for ADHD diagnosed children that sound very similar to your IEPs, etc. People often talk about the battle they have had to get the condition recognised by teachers but that is another matter. Tonight there was a message posted by a woman whose 5 year old son (therefore in the same class as my son) is taking Ritalin. I was interested in this as it is not usually given to children under 6 here and she explained that he was unable to sit still in class, was constantly impulsive, inattentive, had no friends. This is in a normal-sized school of 25 kids in the class apparently. This really does leave me wondering... Why is it, then, that J manages (according to his teacher, who would be very likely to tell me if there was a problem) to sit still in class, to concentrate and to produce "work" that is either good or very good every day? Is it, in fact, simply because he is in a tiny class and the teacher has a lot of time to spend with him one to one? Would he be faring the same as this other little boy in an ordinary-sized school? He could well be, it seems to me.