HI there, new here , just wondered how people kkep going!! My son has complex special needs but a diagnosis of o.d.d. also, the defiance i can cope with just!! But he is so controlling and bullies me , it is so harsd to cope with he is 11. There are various proffessionals that have had input , say his self esteem is rock bottom, use positive praise and rewards , i get it but find it soo hard to do that when he is so nasty to me a lot of the time.I feel as if my life and the whole familys is ruined as it is totally dominated by difficult child and we are always seperated, he has autistic behaviourstoo and does not do socialising!! lots more to say but will post this for now to see how it goes.