The school psychologist who authored the following article needs to be cloned and distributed to every school district with the authority to implement appropriate changes. lol https://web.archive.org/web/2015062...rg/publications/cq/mocq362socialskillsho.aspx NASP Communiqué, Vol. 36, #2 October 2007 Good Social Skills Improve Learning and Safety: Tips for Parents From Your School Psychologist Good social skills are critical to success in life. The extent to which children possess these skills can influence their academic performance, behavior, social and family relationships, and even school safety. Social skills encompass a range of behaviors, such as waiting your turn, asking to use something, joining a group, managing anger or frustration, respecting other people, not interrupting, asking for help, and understanding the social cues of other children. Most children pick up positive skills through their everyday interactions with adults and peers. However, because of increased negative influences in life today such as media violence and pressures on the family, it is important that teachers and parents reinforce this casual learning with direct and indirect instruction. This is particularly true given the critical role that social skills play in maintaining a positive school environment and reducing school violence. Aggressive or disruptive behavior often occurs because children do not know how to express themselves or respond to classmates appropriately. Effective social skills programs involve parents and teachers working together. They can be implemented at a school-wide, classroom, family, and individual level and always emphasize teaching a desired skill, as opposed to punishing negative behaviors. Adults can reinforce positive socials skills a number of ways. Praise children when they behave correctly. For children who have particular difficulty, it may be necessary to intentionally catch them doing the right thing or create situations in which they can make a good choice. Offer alternatives to inappropriate behavior. Explain why the childs first choice is incorrect and have them practice the appropriate skills before going on with their activity. Model good social skills. Children learn through observation. Adults can provide important examples of positive behaviors by how they interact with each other and, importantly, with the children themselves. Create a culture that fosters good social skills. School and home environments can affect a childs ability to learn and perform good social skills. For instance, establishment of specific routines for coming into class and getting settled may prevent a student from becoming unruly in the morning. Schools can also provide visual reminders, such as posters and key phrases, throughout the building. Children may have difficulty getting prepared for school each day if there is not a scheduled and structured plan of success. Communicate between home and school. Schools should include parents and other caregivers in social skills training and activities so that they can reinforce skills taught at school. They should also work together to develop individualized strategies for a child who has a specific issue or need. Focus on all age groups. Adults sometimes overlook inappropriate behavior in young children because they believe that they will grow out of it. On the contrary, the earlier children start to learn good social skills, the fewer problems they will have as they get older. Avoid a one size fits all approach. Most children will need a combination of strategies that are matched to their particular needs and backgrounds. For example, students who speak English as a second language might need intensive social skill instruction to promote acculturation and peer acceptance. Children with disabilities might need adaptive curriculum and learning strategies. Schools across the country are discovering that integrating socials skills into the curriculum has a significant impact on the quality of the school experience. Using many of the same techniques at home and in school results in both settings becoming more positive. We see improved behavior in the classroom, reduced conflicts at recess and lunch, and an increase in students ability to resolve problems on their own. This translates into fewer referrals for discipline problems and a better learning environment for all students. Parents who have questions about their child or the social skills program should contact their childs teacher, the school counselor, or the school psychologist providing you this information. NASP Resources Available Online NASP has a number of resources available to assist families and educators in helping to create school and home environments that promote positive social interactions. Adapted from: Social Skills: Promoting Positive Behavior, Academic Success, and School Safety Fact Sheet, NASP, 2002. Note: This handout article is available for NASP members online to adapt and post on their webpage.