This is a major whine so be warned! From what I've posted already, you know we are on a major downhill slide with no view of the bottom. Lots of little problems (had to loan difficult child 1 money for a new washer and drier and glasses - he will pay me back, he is trustworthy on that score but, still, it puts me in a bind right now). difficult child 2's only vehicle's engine blew up; we borrowed money from a relative to buy a new engine but he's working so many hours he hasn't had time to put the new engine in. He's been trying to cobble it together to make it go a little longer but today it quit again. He's been driving my brand new car and last night he accidentally poked a hole in the seat with his pliers. He says he has a friend who can fix it like new, but still..... And of course his wife ran off with the convict and his kids. We think we finally located them but trying to get anything done is insane. Hopefully the US marshall service will agree to pick him up and take him back to Maryland. difficult child is still working through legal channels to get the kids back but it takes FOREVER! In the middle of all of this, my 98 year old mother fell and broke her hip and is now in the nursing home. So the new crisis is dealing with Medicaid to get them to pay for her. difficult child bought a house when he got married; my mother's name is on it as co-owner. That was partly done to keep crazy wife bi+c# from getting it in case something happened like just did. difficult child made payments and finally paid her a lump sum to pay it off a couple of years ago. We never had the title changed as you have to hire a lawyer or go to the title company and we didn't have the money. So now they want us to sell the house and put him in the street, even though he's the one who paid for it. Now, the problem is, I'm sure they are picturing a HOUSE: tens of thousands of dollars. What they don't seem to realize (even though I've told them) that the house in the shape it's in, in this market, probably woudln't bring $3000. They told me at the nursing home that you can have up to $4000 in assets. She has a couple of hundred in her checking account so her half of the house would still not be enough to put her over the limit. But how do I get through to these people? I"ve talked to one human and many machines; made no headway at all. I'm beginning to think I'm going to have to pack her up and install her in my upstairs (not sure how I'd get her there. I have NO nursing skills, all of my bedrooms are upstairs, she couldn't get into my bathtub, and she's crazy as a loon. I'm thinking of drinking a big bottle of something good and going to bed and pulling the covers over my head for a couple of weeks. Maybe if I act crazy enough they'll have me committed and I can let somebody else deal with this sh*+ storm.