Okay, here we go, 1/2 of a 5 mg tablet every night for 3 wks, then we see the psychiatrist again. We had a GREAT appointment! I dropped off a hand-written a note a few wks ago, describing how difficult child is always tense, agitated and soooo negative, and in general, unhappy, deliberately isolating himself and, well, you know the spiel. The dr called in the middle of my date night with-husband and changed the appointment from the 19th to tonight, and promised to work on it. He spent double the normal amt of time with-us, asking difficult child pointed questions about friends, homework, attitudes, girlfriend, bff (ha, like that would ever happen with-his b&w thinking), when his agitation started and began--home, a.m., p.m., being with-people, being alone, stressing out about old things he's done that he still hasn't forgiven himself for, you get the idea. Then he led up to taking a new medication for that, and tapering off on the clonidine. difficult child was pretty good with-it (although he started texting in the last 5 min, grrr) but we'll find out for sure tonight when we give him his medications at bedtime. He hates change, but the psychiatrist is an authority figure, and he's young and hip. Wears a ponytail. Fingers crossed for the next few wks! This is in an entirely diff class of drugs from Prozac and Zoloft as most of you know, so I hope-hope-hope he doesn't have heart palpitations and dizziness like he did a few yrs ago. He is worried about it, but I let him go straight on the XBox and straight to the ph with-his girlfriend so he's happy now. Oh, we talked about his appetite, or lack thereof, and how he tends to eat a bit of dinner, then snack all night long (2 a.m., 5:30 a.m.) and can't figure out why he's so tired in the a.m. Also, the psychiatrist told me to quit making pancakes and bacon and a huge breakfast for him, even when he asks for it--freeze them and let him make his own breakfast. Or let him pour himself a bowl of cereal. So much for June Cleaver! lol! Also, we have an $80 credit on our acct. Our trip to Calif went VERY well. difficult child dug his heels in, saying "I don't want to go. I am NOT going," for an entire month. I ignored him. Occasionally, I said, "I don't like to fly, either." But I have learned over the yrs to ignore him. Do not argue. Just keep on swimming. I packed for him (actually, he even threw a few of his own things in the suitcase, and I mean "threw") and did not raise a bit of a fuss when we got in the car. No battle. Woo hoo! Once in the airport, I let him buy a book. I was shocked. It was a kids' middle school book. (Can't remember the title but it was sooooo cute and I was shocked, considering he's so into blowing off people's heads on XBox, and I just smiled and said, "Okay." And he read most of it on the plane.) I also let him eat whatever he ordered on the plane, even if it contained wheat. WTH. As long as the side effects don't ramp up and combine with-homework and chores, he can usually handle the excema and temper irritation, since it's vacation. I know he appreciated my hands-off attitude. Also, one of my nephews has serious colon issues and has to eat gluten-free products so it really, really helps when there's a peer who's doing the same thing. We only had difficult child do three outside activities in Calif. The day after we landed, he went on a whole-day ocean fishing trip with-husband and everyone caught fish and we had them for dinner. One night, we went out to dinner. Another time, we saw War Horse with-the family, and he drove with-s-i-l and her son, and his friend, so there were 2 other kids his age in that car. Other than that, he was required to sit with-us for dinner with-the entire family (20 people at 2 tables) for at least 15 min. Nothing like yrs past when we ran, ran, ran, like my s-i-l does with-her kids. Yeah, they're all Baby Geniuses, one's at Stanford, another is applying at Princeton, Wm & Mary, Duke, the youngest has been moved up a grade ... but you can run around like that and sign up for every team sport and extra class when you've got the stamina, IQ and nerves of a presidential candidate. We've learned to ignore all of that and just take it easy. "Thank you, but we'd love to just sit in the sun and read a book today."