I had a huge fight with my son, age 32, who was just released from the hospital on Saturday. He had a suicidal plan and was in for 10 days. My son is a huge procrastinator. He has lied, cheated, stolen, and kept things secret. When he got out, I told him if he ever did that again we were done. The feedback I got was to not make empty threats. This is not an empty threat. Lying, cheating, stealing, and keeping secrets to me are not acceptable behavior. He is staying with me through Nov 8th. He is doing well and we are getting along well; however, he still tries to split hairs about issues. Ex. "I thought you were getting the rest of your things." "No, I said I was just getting some of them." So we argued about that. (I know, I know I am the one arguing. However, I get so mad about him being on the edge, it really tries my patience.) He was going to make a list and talk to me about his plan. This has not happened. He says," I can't fix this overnight, which I understand, but, he really does not do what he says he is going to do and does it by "being just on the edge." (as I call it). BUT, we made up and are trying to get through these next few days as loving and as respectful as we can be to each other. Yes, he is trying & so am I. I think I am still in shock about all of this and amazed that he would be spending money on porn when he had no income. Yesterday, he found out that the roommate, (who had to be evicted while my son was in the hospital and knew nothing about the issue of him spending money recklessly), took his guitar, the amp, his TV, play station, and vinyl records to hock so he could pay for a new security deposit. I think my son was more upset about that than what he has done to me, , my friend, his other family members, and this guy. I tried to be patient and all I said was, " I am sorry that happened; however, those are the consequences one must pay." I really do know that my son is trying, I also know that I have been dealing with his irresponsibility (point for him: he has always worked until he got fired....but he also quit his job one time for 3 months and guess who picked up the slack?), and I am trying to love him and support him, but I can only do that for so much. I have to think about caring for myself. Thanks for those of you who read this. This is a great place to get this off of my chest. I know I need to work on my issues of wanting to fix. It is very, very hard. I pray every day for strength.