LOL... Janet... Onyxx does not get to watch Meggie by herself. I don't trust her. To be honest, Jett either. husband does fine... But after 300 reminders to Jett to support her head or HOLD her instead of sitting her on his lap, and Onyxx putting her carrier on a TABLE and then walking away (yes I was one room away and she was only alone for about 15 seconds when I noticed), PLUS not wiping her butt when changing her diaper... And neither of them helping me at all... Nope. husband, or my Mom, or ME. (Maybe BFF, she has 2 grandsons and the younger is 2.)
I'm OK on sleep, the kids just push my buttons worse when I am tired (10 PM and 7 AM being prime examples)... And I get so upset when Meggie screams. I don't know what to do. I've tried the simethicone drops, sometimes they help. But I can't always tell if she's hungry or her tummy hurts and she thinks she's hungry. Now, earlier the fussing was a blowout diaper; normally she could not care less if her diaper is messy. And she helped me fold laundry today (in her Boppy, watching) - and got so bored she fell asleep.
But really, the worst part is always being sad or angry. Meggie is about the only thing that pulls me out of either - her warm, limp weight in my arms is soothing. When she's fussy, I sometimes feel inadequate, but I'll try just about anything I can think of, cause the overwhelming love I feel for her covers that nicely.
My biggest sleep problem is I can't. I wake up, feed her, crawl back into bed, and sleep, in the middle of the night, but when others are making noise in the house I just can't sleep. And I about took Onyxx's head off - she asked for a ride to work and husband told her if she did her chores he would. She argued, he just told her, "quid pro quo, daughter" (I about lost it laughing)... And then... She was STOMPING around upstairs and slamming doors and woke Meggie (downstairs). I would've gone up and let her have it but I was busy calming a frightened baby.
husband uses the belly-to-belly/beat-on-the-diapered-butt thing very successfully. It doesn't work so well for me. Probably because my belly hurts. Not the incision - between that and my navel. The very center is numb and outside that about 6 inches either side feels like a skinned knee.
As for the weight loss - it's not intentional, it's just happening. I suspect if I could wake up enough to eat in the morning... But it's 9:30 or later when I really get moving, and then I feed her, something for me to drink, a snack (usually not a light snack, though, and more than one!), make dinner... And it's dinnertime. I have another snack about 9 PM... Bed by 10, sleep if I can by 11 and then up again at midnight... I'm not eating as well as I should, but if I rely on the other people in my house I will starve. (FWIW, I am the only person in my house that likes egg salad (or so I thought), so I made 8 eggs' worth. I got one sandwich. Apparently husband got really hungry. I threatened to label food as MINE.) This was 2 days after a 4-egg, 2-can tuna salad. Normally I make this stuff and NO ONE else touches it, and it goes bad...