I'm married to the love of my life I knew since the day I first met her. She moved in after dating 6 months with her 2 boys 15 and 16 at the time. The boys father has had nothing to do with them since they were 8. i knew the very first week the older one was gonna be a problem. I tried to approach her with it and instant hell breaks lose. The boy has no motivation to do anything and every time I bring it up I'm the bad guy. He is now 20 and spends most his time in his truck smoking dope. His mom refuses to make him work or help with anything. Hell she even gave him credit card. I'm going crazy she has no idea she's hurting him and everytime I bring it up I'm cussed out and told I'm worthless and she hates my guts. He takes my tools loses them tears them up and she just makes excuses for him. His room is disgusting along with his general hygiene. Please I need help. This boy is destroying our marriage. I love her to death but do not know what to do??