happymomof2
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Hi All, haven't been on for a while. difficult child is doing well. Out of self contained and keeping his grades up. Got one C on last report card the rest are A's and B's. He is shooting for all A's and B's the next 9 weeks.
Here is where I am at in all this and I know many of you can relate. Not sure what I am looking for here, maybe just some support. I feel stuck in the middle between my difficult child and his dad. His dad and I are married and both my kids are his. We have been married for 15 years. He is the disciplanarian of the home, I am as well. But to me it seems the only thing he does is discipline. He doesn't balance it out with love and attention. I know I am the mom and I am the nurturing one. difficult child is asking me to do something about dad, dad doesn't seem to have a nice word for difficult child. I love them both. I am having a hard time talking to dad about all this. Everytime I bring it up he says I am too soft on difficult child.
difficult child's girlfriend moved away - a whole 10 minutes by car but they can't see each other as much as they use to. Now he is wanting them to spend even less time together. I don't get it. She is a good girl, difficult child is good when she is around. She is good for him. When she is around he isn't getting into trouble. He is doing so much better.
I just feel in the middle and don't know what to do. Yea in a perfect world counseling would be great but we don't have insurance and I doubt very seriously that dad would even go and difficult child said he doesn't want to have to see any more counselors.
Could Dad be jealous of relationship between me and difficult child? We have always been close and he talks to me about everything. He won't talk to his dad because his dad won't talk to him. Dad blames his lack of relationship abilities on his own dad. Give me a break. It's not my fault he hasn't tried to have a relationship with his son.
Thanks for listening
Here is where I am at in all this and I know many of you can relate. Not sure what I am looking for here, maybe just some support. I feel stuck in the middle between my difficult child and his dad. His dad and I are married and both my kids are his. We have been married for 15 years. He is the disciplanarian of the home, I am as well. But to me it seems the only thing he does is discipline. He doesn't balance it out with love and attention. I know I am the mom and I am the nurturing one. difficult child is asking me to do something about dad, dad doesn't seem to have a nice word for difficult child. I love them both. I am having a hard time talking to dad about all this. Everytime I bring it up he says I am too soft on difficult child.
difficult child's girlfriend moved away - a whole 10 minutes by car but they can't see each other as much as they use to. Now he is wanting them to spend even less time together. I don't get it. She is a good girl, difficult child is good when she is around. She is good for him. When she is around he isn't getting into trouble. He is doing so much better.
I just feel in the middle and don't know what to do. Yea in a perfect world counseling would be great but we don't have insurance and I doubt very seriously that dad would even go and difficult child said he doesn't want to have to see any more counselors.
Could Dad be jealous of relationship between me and difficult child? We have always been close and he talks to me about everything. He won't talk to his dad because his dad won't talk to him. Dad blames his lack of relationship abilities on his own dad. Give me a break. It's not my fault he hasn't tried to have a relationship with his son.
Thanks for listening