Ok, I have a few things to throw at you and need some feedback. 1/My daughter is in sixth grade, tall for her age, but not husky. She loves playing football (and all sports). This year we let her play Pop Warner and she loves it, even though she's as good as most of the boys and plays a lot less. She wants to play next year. I'm against it. First of all, the boys will just get bigger and heavier. Secondly...it's a touchy social issue. I'm thinking that boys aren't going to like girls who play football if she keeps it up. This year they think it's neat, but she's getting older and is very social. She is going to want boys to like her. Am I micro-managing her life? Seems even down to my fifth kid I worry to much. 2/I brought his up once before, but it's starting to worry me more. My daughter is one of four AA kids at school (she is actually bi-racial). The two boys are immensely popular and one was crowedn homecoming king this year. He is good looking and a super athlete and, even in our community, highly sought after as a boyfriend. I am not sure the girls who are part AA and AA get the same attention from boys. Why do I care so much, you ask? Well, boys are already picking fake girlfriends and they are all the caucasian kids (we have lots of asian kids too). We have a sister school she could go to that is more mixed--lots of Native Americans, a few AAs, hispanices--it's maybe 80% white, which is A LOT less than this school. However, daughter has TONS of friends here, at this school. Yet it will hurt her later if boys won't date her. I'm planning in advance because I certainly don't want her to date until she is at least fourteen, and that would only be group dating. Nicole is my most personable, social child. She has Learning Disability (LD)'s that make her think she's "stupid" but she is a great athlete and has a really nice personality. I goofed up with my first daughter. We moved in seventh grade and she, also a minority (asian), never could fit in so she got involved in drugs. She has no real advice except "Don't move until she's eighteen" and "blacks and asians get treated differently, so I really don't know what to tell you." And she's right. Any feedback? I know, I know. I'm way too nervous about my kids. This one, however, is very sensitive, and I'm worried because of what happened to my older daughter. They are very different people, but they are both uber-sensitive.