Text from difficult child

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Nancy, Dec 20, 2011.

  1. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I got a text this morning from difficult child asking "you're not getting a divorce from dad right?" I responded no of course not and asked why she was asking. She said she had a dream last night that we did and it was the worst dream ever. I told her I didn't think she liked me enough to even care and she responded, "I love you mom."

    Either something has come over her or she wants to make sure she gets her christmas presents.

  2. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    LOL... That was a bad dream.
  3. pinevalley

    pinevalley Member

    Nancy, I like your attitude about your difficult child! I don't think that you are surprised by anything that your difficult child says or does!
  4. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    Optimist Polyanna type speaking...
    The last few months have been one long wakeup call for her. Is she perfect? Hardly. But she knows who it is who stood by her and who loved her enough NOT to step in at the wrong time and help in the wrong way. She loves her mama! (and her dad).
  5. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Dash you make me laugh. Lunch after holidays Ms. Polyanna?

  6. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    That sounds lovely. I'll be more than ready!
  7. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    You've come a long way baby!

    "didn't think you liked me enough to even care."

    You get a cookie, and a star in detachment 101.
  8. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    I do think she does love her mom. (and we all know I'm no pollyanna ) I think it's that she is suddenly realizing a LOT of things all at once, it's scary.
  9. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Some one was asking me the other day at work if I had heard from difficult child. I said of course, it is Christmas time (she wants to ensure she gets something). Another woman laughed and said her daughter's birthday is the same week as Christmas and it is the only week during the year they see or hear from her. Apparently, it is common....lol.
  10. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Let's just say...difficult child loves me a lot more than she did when she lived here!

    Lol, you're right to be cautiously optimistic.
  11. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    You put a smile on my face this morning. Very interesting. You've come a long way, Baby! DDD
  12. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Err. I love my parents more now than I used to, and I probably mostly qualify for easy child status (with moments, of course).

    I love, love, love the "I didn't think she liked me enough to even care"...
  13. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    ROFL this is priceless.

  14. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    At least she had some concern but like you, I would be wondering what triggered the concern.
    At least she seems to be engaged in the process of change.
  15. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I think it is a very common thing for kids...adult kids to start that pulling away process. I know I didnt call my parents as much as I should have. I have huge regrets now. I should have called my dad more but life got in the way. But then again the phone lines go both ways. He could have picked up that phone and called me too. My stepmom read me the riot act one year...maybe 10 years ago about how I needed to call my dad more often. I was probably calling him once every 2 or 3 months but at that time I still had my mom at home, I had just quit my job, I was not in good health...it was pretty chaotic here. I did start trying. It is hard to remember to call someone on a monthly basis when I had crisis on top of crisis happening in my day to day life. Sometimes I called him twice a month, sometimes I called him monthly, sometimes I went two months without calling. It all depended. But I still say he could have called me too. It shouldnt have all fallen on me to have been the dutiful daughter to call.
  16. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Janet I agree with you. My dad is 92 today and if I don't call him I don't hear from him. I have told him many times the phone works both ways but he says "I'm 92 (or whatever age he is at the time) I shouldn't have to call you, you should call me." Of course he's been saying this for years now. It would be nice if he just picked up the phone just to say hi but he won't.