First day here, stumbled across this page by accident in doing research and so glad I did. My signature below pretty well explains it all, in a nutshell. We have full custody (since age 3) of my stepson, who is my difficult child child. He has been in counseling twice with basically no help whatsoever. He is good at playing people, in school, family, therapists, everything. Steals, lies constantly, has no remorse for his actions, never has, does everything he can to push people's buttons and manipulate people. Everything gets chalked up to "poor kid, mommy issues, blah blah blah" Found kiddie porn and hardcore violent stuff on his ereader recently, found suicide note, found my clothing hidden and torn to shreds - had him Emergency evaluation'ed and next week we finally have an appointment at a GOOD therapy place. Emergency Evalution counselor said he is from her brief exam and discussion with him and us, Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), ODD and a sociopath....great. All of this has led to the resurfacing of deadbeat bio-mom who owes $38K in child support, is a former drug addict, current drinker with a houseful of kids by various fathers and a teen daughter who's pregnant, and....well, you get the idea....NOT a good environment. Never has been. But nonetheless she thinks she deserves custody, so back into court we go next month, while trying to get our child the help he (and WE!!) desperately need. So that's me....landing here for some support and research.