BusynMember
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I'm very tired, but since I'm going out of town tomorrow morning (with no puter) thought I'd post to those interested all about what ensued tonight.
J. did come over. I stopped him before he could go to the room Jumper was in and spoke to him candidly about my problems, after telling him that we were not angry at him for last night (he was afraid we were). Since his biggest fear is being abandoned (you'd think this kid was adopted), I assured him that our family doesn't ever "dump" anyone and that even if he and Jumper decide not to date, he is welcome to hang out here and I would always talk to him if he felt he needed help. I explained that people outside of my family helped me...that my family was just too involved or did not understand. He seemed very grateful and receptive and even smiled. I gave him the crisis line in his town (which is different from ours) and told him to use it if he felt desperate and that they would help him know what to do and that he could also come here. I know he is terrified that Jumper is going to find somebody else (that started their fight last night). I don't know if this helped, but he knows Jumper and me are very close and I told him truthfully that she has no intention of ever dumping him, that he will have to dump her to get rid of her and that she has never been interested in another boy before (when I told Jumper what I told him, she was good with it). He went off to Jumper in a better mood. Poor kid thinks nobody cares about him.
Jumper and J. had a normal few hours together (he has to go to school tomorrow, but she is not going to school...she is driving down to Chicago with the rest of us to see PatryChef graduate). We are also having our Chicago family Christmas over the weekend so it should be fun.
A lot of people tell me I am a good "therapist" and I am thinking of going to classes to become a peer mentor. I have to go ten weeks in a row and get updated training, but I'd love to help other people who are going through mental illness and have not reached the point I am at yet. Tonight made me consider it more seriously. So many people suffering from mental illness don't know anybody who understands their plight. I remember hearing the endless "Snap out of it."
Anyway, that was how it went tonight. I am looking very forward to seeing my oldest daughter, who had such a struggle with drugs from 12-19, FINALLY graduate with honors in the field she loves the most...Culinary Arts. And wouldn't you know it? They begged her to work the day before graduation. Being a pastry chef can mean you have to make five hundred identical cupcakes and it is very tiring because you don't sit down for hours.
I'm so proud of her, I could burst. She looked like her career was going to be Prison!
Sonic is coming. It will be interesting to see how he handles the long ceremony and the noise and crowds.
I will miss you all! Have a no-meltdown few days
J. did come over. I stopped him before he could go to the room Jumper was in and spoke to him candidly about my problems, after telling him that we were not angry at him for last night (he was afraid we were). Since his biggest fear is being abandoned (you'd think this kid was adopted), I assured him that our family doesn't ever "dump" anyone and that even if he and Jumper decide not to date, he is welcome to hang out here and I would always talk to him if he felt he needed help. I explained that people outside of my family helped me...that my family was just too involved or did not understand. He seemed very grateful and receptive and even smiled. I gave him the crisis line in his town (which is different from ours) and told him to use it if he felt desperate and that they would help him know what to do and that he could also come here. I know he is terrified that Jumper is going to find somebody else (that started their fight last night). I don't know if this helped, but he knows Jumper and me are very close and I told him truthfully that she has no intention of ever dumping him, that he will have to dump her to get rid of her and that she has never been interested in another boy before (when I told Jumper what I told him, she was good with it). He went off to Jumper in a better mood. Poor kid thinks nobody cares about him.
Jumper and J. had a normal few hours together (he has to go to school tomorrow, but she is not going to school...she is driving down to Chicago with the rest of us to see PatryChef graduate). We are also having our Chicago family Christmas over the weekend so it should be fun.
A lot of people tell me I am a good "therapist" and I am thinking of going to classes to become a peer mentor. I have to go ten weeks in a row and get updated training, but I'd love to help other people who are going through mental illness and have not reached the point I am at yet. Tonight made me consider it more seriously. So many people suffering from mental illness don't know anybody who understands their plight. I remember hearing the endless "Snap out of it."
Anyway, that was how it went tonight. I am looking very forward to seeing my oldest daughter, who had such a struggle with drugs from 12-19, FINALLY graduate with honors in the field she loves the most...Culinary Arts. And wouldn't you know it? They begged her to work the day before graduation. Being a pastry chef can mean you have to make five hundred identical cupcakes and it is very tiring because you don't sit down for hours.
I'm so proud of her, I could burst. She looked like her career was going to be Prison!
Sonic is coming. It will be interesting to see how he handles the long ceremony and the noise and crowds.
I will miss you all! Have a no-meltdown few days