I expect him to work, save his money, deal with his student loans and bills, do his community service. I expect him to clean up after himself and feed himself, bathe and act like a respectable person. But that doesn't stop me from reminding him of most of these things over and over. I try not to...but I do it. "Don't forget to call your student loans. What time do you work? Do you have a clean uniform? You should do laundry." He's 21. We started off with letting him drink in the house. Then one day he came in with a 12-pack and announced his intention to drink 6 while playing video games in his room. My reaction did not make it a pleasant evening for anyone. I mean, there's a big difference between sitting in a bar with your buddies or at a party with other people and getting buzzed (assuming you aren't driving) or having a glass of wine to relax after a long day, and drinking a six-pack. Isn't there? So we told him we're not comfortable with his drinking and he just wasn't allowed to bring it into the house again. But of course, Jabber and I drink. Not much, but some. He came home the other night and we were having a glass of wine. So ... does it make sense to tell him he can't? What restrictions are reasonable restrictions? I keep trying to point out it's not the act of having a drink...it's the act of drinking too much! That just goes round and round, since he insists that he wouldn't be drunk drinking six beers over several hours. Maybe he wouldn't. It still smacks of sad old drunk to sit alone and drink until buzzed...even if you're playing an on-line game and chatting on Facebook or something. Today Jabber comes home to six beer cans on the counter. Apparently, he had a friend come by before he went to work and they each had a couple beers. At noon. Before work. Okay...seriously stupid to drink before your 2 p.m. shift, but...I've had a drink at lunch and gone back to work. Is this different? Why? Jabber wants to simply say, "No drinking in the house. Period." But it would of course be only HIM...WE can drink. So isn't that treating him like a child? We wouldn't make that a requirement of any other adult in the house. He's only with us a few more weeks...maybe a couple months...until he's got the money to move out. I'm just so conflicted about the whole thing. It's so hard to treat him like an adult while still making "rules" that really have nothing to do with being a good houseguest. We have to sit him down and have a talk about the housekeeping...or lack thereof as it is. I'm just not happy about any of this.