A little history .. a few weeks ago difficult child rode his bike up to one of the elementary schools and apparently got into it with a group of boys.. From difficult child's version, nothing major happened, so I told him it would be a few weeks before I let him go back up there, just to give things a chance to calm down. difficult child didn't like this, but eventually let it drop.
Fast forward to this afternoon. It's a nice afternoon, and it's been a few weeks since the other thing happened. difficult child asked if he could go ride his bike. I said ok, with the intention of driving up there after I picked up 16 yr old from the high school. When I got there, there was difficult child and some other kids and it looked like they were playing tag. When a girl standing on the sidelines told difficult child to leave someone alone, I hollered for him to come over to the car. At this point, the other kids took off. I asked him what that was about and difficult child said that one of the boys had tried to take his bike a few minutes before I got there and he was keeping them from taking it. I told him to head home because dinner was almost ready.
I get home, and a few minutes later there is a knock on my front door and my husband answers. He steps out, and in comes son. I go to the door to see who it is, and it's a police officer. Apparently, before I got there, difficult child was riding his bike around the school (the kids told the police that difficult child was following them around and told them to leave him alone). Words were exchanged and it escalated between difficult child and one boy. The other kids told the police that difficult child got a stick from a tree and began chasing him with it (there was no stick in difficult child's hand by the time I got there) and eventually boy gets hit with stick and difficult child gets punched in the head.
At this point, Im silently freaking out trying to keep it together. Talked with the officer for quite awhile explaining difficult child's issues and what had happened over the last few weeks. I asked straight out if difficult child was going to be arrested. He said no, worse case scenario he would be charged with aggravated assault, and since this was his first offense, he would get 2-3 years probation. He asked if I wanted to press charges against the other child and I said no. Not only because I didn't think it was necessary, but I was secretly hopping that it would "help" in charges not being brought against difficult child.
In the end, the other parent didn't want to press charges, saying kids are kids and they will get into fights. But was concerned because the hand that got hit by the stick was recovering from being previously broken in football. And he was upset that the his son's sweatshirt was was ripped . I volunteered to repalce the sweatshirt and to pay for medical bills if he wanted to take his son to have the hand checked out. So it's a wait and see situation to see what will happen.
I'm scared, worried, and who knows what else at this point. While the police have been involved with him before (meltdowns at school), nothing to this degree.
The night didnt get any better. Got after the 16 yr old for not doing her chores. Argued with husband about what constitutes an appropriate bedtime snack for difficult child. And despite knowing better than to check work e-mail at home, I did. I have a meeting first thing in the morning to start preparing for a two and half week business trip the end of April.
Where is Calgon when you need it?
Fast forward to this afternoon. It's a nice afternoon, and it's been a few weeks since the other thing happened. difficult child asked if he could go ride his bike. I said ok, with the intention of driving up there after I picked up 16 yr old from the high school. When I got there, there was difficult child and some other kids and it looked like they were playing tag. When a girl standing on the sidelines told difficult child to leave someone alone, I hollered for him to come over to the car. At this point, the other kids took off. I asked him what that was about and difficult child said that one of the boys had tried to take his bike a few minutes before I got there and he was keeping them from taking it. I told him to head home because dinner was almost ready.
I get home, and a few minutes later there is a knock on my front door and my husband answers. He steps out, and in comes son. I go to the door to see who it is, and it's a police officer. Apparently, before I got there, difficult child was riding his bike around the school (the kids told the police that difficult child was following them around and told them to leave him alone). Words were exchanged and it escalated between difficult child and one boy. The other kids told the police that difficult child got a stick from a tree and began chasing him with it (there was no stick in difficult child's hand by the time I got there) and eventually boy gets hit with stick and difficult child gets punched in the head.
At this point, Im silently freaking out trying to keep it together. Talked with the officer for quite awhile explaining difficult child's issues and what had happened over the last few weeks. I asked straight out if difficult child was going to be arrested. He said no, worse case scenario he would be charged with aggravated assault, and since this was his first offense, he would get 2-3 years probation. He asked if I wanted to press charges against the other child and I said no. Not only because I didn't think it was necessary, but I was secretly hopping that it would "help" in charges not being brought against difficult child.
In the end, the other parent didn't want to press charges, saying kids are kids and they will get into fights. But was concerned because the hand that got hit by the stick was recovering from being previously broken in football. And he was upset that the his son's sweatshirt was was ripped . I volunteered to repalce the sweatshirt and to pay for medical bills if he wanted to take his son to have the hand checked out. So it's a wait and see situation to see what will happen.
I'm scared, worried, and who knows what else at this point. While the police have been involved with him before (meltdowns at school), nothing to this degree.
The night didnt get any better. Got after the 16 yr old for not doing her chores. Argued with husband about what constitutes an appropriate bedtime snack for difficult child. And despite knowing better than to check work e-mail at home, I did. I have a meeting first thing in the morning to start preparing for a two and half week business trip the end of April.
Where is Calgon when you need it?
Said made his job easier.
It's his anniversary gift from me to him.
