So last week I had the police come out and officially serve and notice my son of my temporary restraining order (I have to get the permanent one shortly). So the week was emotionally hard. I couldn't sleep for a few nights. He called a couple of times and I took him food and a sleeping bag. My concern over him getting cold was alleviated by giving him the expensive bag. I know he's sleeping under an underpass (but it will keep him dry when it rains). He's drunk every day. On Tuesday I met him and he agreed to make an appointment with the county mental health and while on the phone waiting he couldn't handle it anymore and got angry and called me names and got out of the car. I didn't see him Wed. night, but low and behold on Thursday night he was in "his" bedroom when I got home. He was so dirty I let him stay the night and take a shower. This am. I went to the store and bought him a large sub and tooth brush etc. and brought it home. I gave it to him and 20 dollars and told him if he came back I would again call the police (which I will). He got mad and threw an avocado against the cupboard. He is very psychotic. Makes noises and laughs and has delusions. BUT I can't do anything. He refuses to get help. Wins and Losses: Win: Got a restraining order and served it. Feel totally okay about making him leave today and am planning on calling the police if he shows up. Losses: Enabling: Bringing him food and money several times. Didn't call police last night and gave him 20 dollars. Goal: To be consistent. I really wouldn't mind allowing him to come and use the shower if he called first. But I can't have him just showing up drunk.