luvmy2boyz
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Hi All~
Just looking for some encouraging words right now. I have a 14 year old son who is very impulsive. He is not a bad child but he does not think before he acts and for some reason he seems to think that he won't get in trouble. We are only 7 weeks into the school year and he has already had an in school suspension and now today I found out he has an after school detention! He got the suspension for snapping a girls bra, a girl he was not suppose to be talking to but that is a different matter. I tried to explain to him that even though he thought it was a joke EVERYTHING now days can be labeled as some form of sexual infraction. I also explained to him that he would now be on the principles radar and he needed to be on extra good behavior. Well, that didn't work because now I find out he threw a rock during a fire drill and hit someones car! He wasn't trying to hit the car just trying to be funny . The class was talking during the drill and a teacher told them to be quiet, he repeated to the class to be quiet and he got in trouble for making fun of the teacher! Now, I don't know if he meant to help the teacher or not, he says he was just trying to help, but it goes back to me telling him he is on everyone's radar and he needs to mind his p's and q's. His father, along with one sister and several of his cousins struggle with ADHD. He also has an Aunt with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I did have my son tested in 4th grade because he struggled a lot that year, but they also put him in a split classroom which I did not approve of because I didn't think he had good organizational skills and I think that had something to do with it. The teacher told me that would help him with his organizational skills! It didn't! It was a horrible year for us. The test came out borderline for him and the following year he made the honor roll and has been on it ever since. He is a very intelligent kid, he was invited to take the ACT this year(8th grade) so I don't think he is attention deficit. I do however, think he has hyperactivity disorder. He can not sit still, he is constantly shaking his legs or moving around. He gets up at home after sitting watching tv or doing homework and runs around the house. He has been doing this since he was very young and I thought he would out grow it by now. It used to bother me a lot until I talked at length with my sister in law (her son is ADHD) and she said it was just something he needed to do. Which after thinking about it I understand. I just don't want him to be labeled as a trouble maker, it makes me sad to think people think he is a bad person. He's not, he just doesn't seem to be able to control himself sometimes. He doesn't talk back at home and is respectful to his friends and their parents. I just wonder if it has something to do with not being able to release the extra energy at school??! Any body have a similar situation? Any advice?
Just looking for some encouraging words right now. I have a 14 year old son who is very impulsive. He is not a bad child but he does not think before he acts and for some reason he seems to think that he won't get in trouble. We are only 7 weeks into the school year and he has already had an in school suspension and now today I found out he has an after school detention! He got the suspension for snapping a girls bra, a girl he was not suppose to be talking to but that is a different matter. I tried to explain to him that even though he thought it was a joke EVERYTHING now days can be labeled as some form of sexual infraction. I also explained to him that he would now be on the principles radar and he needed to be on extra good behavior. Well, that didn't work because now I find out he threw a rock during a fire drill and hit someones car! He wasn't trying to hit the car just trying to be funny . The class was talking during the drill and a teacher told them to be quiet, he repeated to the class to be quiet and he got in trouble for making fun of the teacher! Now, I don't know if he meant to help the teacher or not, he says he was just trying to help, but it goes back to me telling him he is on everyone's radar and he needs to mind his p's and q's. His father, along with one sister and several of his cousins struggle with ADHD. He also has an Aunt with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I did have my son tested in 4th grade because he struggled a lot that year, but they also put him in a split classroom which I did not approve of because I didn't think he had good organizational skills and I think that had something to do with it. The teacher told me that would help him with his organizational skills! It didn't! It was a horrible year for us. The test came out borderline for him and the following year he made the honor roll and has been on it ever since. He is a very intelligent kid, he was invited to take the ACT this year(8th grade) so I don't think he is attention deficit. I do however, think he has hyperactivity disorder. He can not sit still, he is constantly shaking his legs or moving around. He gets up at home after sitting watching tv or doing homework and runs around the house. He has been doing this since he was very young and I thought he would out grow it by now. It used to bother me a lot until I talked at length with my sister in law (her son is ADHD) and she said it was just something he needed to do. Which after thinking about it I understand. I just don't want him to be labeled as a trouble maker, it makes me sad to think people think he is a bad person. He's not, he just doesn't seem to be able to control himself sometimes. He doesn't talk back at home and is respectful to his friends and their parents. I just wonder if it has something to do with not being able to release the extra energy at school??! Any body have a similar situation? Any advice?
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