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Hi all -
I wanted to share this request - WE NEED THE POWER OF THE BOARD ON MONDAY - On Monday the "evil powers that be" have given Dude until then to accept their contract of moving him to Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) 200 miles from here in a concrete block facility with 20 other boys stating they feel this is what is best. WE DO NOT and veehemently disagree - he needs to stay at Fosters - they told us OKAY until he was 21 - he's making minimal progress, but FOR THE FIRST TIME IN ANY SETTING - PROGRESS.
The most incredible thing to me is that he KNOWS he has court trial to face for bogus charges regarding 15 years in prison for a crime he didn't do. We think it is profiling on the part of the local police who hated boys from the hello home - remember he almost got killed twice, no food, no potty, no heat, animal abuse? Yet DESPITE THAT 15 years staring him in the face every day - he attempts to go to school and makes it almost 3 out of 4 days for adult education. We've told him he needs to go all 4 days - he said he can't mentally do it, can we cut him back to 2? He has a 4th grade math education - and the teacher says TAKE THE TEST - you're ready - HE BOMBED IT....he's depressed, wanted a GED by Christmas as a present for me AND probation. Now he's worried. BUT still he goes.
He's FINALLY for the FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE getting along as best he can with the family he's with - he is looking for a job when there is nothing in our area - and NOTHING FOR SURE if it's convicted felon age 18 vs. out of work single mother or father willing to work for minimum wage to save their lives. (I'm not dumb - I know who I'd pick) but still he tries to get job.
He had 80 out of 100 hours of his community service completed at the hello home and the caseworker LOST his paperwork so gets with the probation officer HERE and says - Let's just start all over again. WTH?
Yet - HE GOES 1-2 days a week for 8 hours -
And despite all this? The agency still thinks moving him would away from us, (the place he goes or comes to when the world is caving in on him)
He also has made his OWN appointments for therapy - and is willing to TRY medicine - despite being on 64 medications historically - he said "Okay one more, and .....made his OWN appointment)
He has NOT gotten into any trouble with the law
He has NOT had any drugs or alcohol at age 18 in his life
He has NOT kicked holes in the wall or busted things
He has NOT been impossible to live with -
HE HAS - PUT a stereo in my car - that he WORKED HIS BUTT OFF TO GET.....and since everyone worries that he steals things took my advice and GOT A BILL OF TRADE!!!!!! (WOOOO HOOOO) then came over yesterday and put it in, he ASKED to borrow the tools, and then cleaned up everything and put stuff away - even telling us "I'm putting this away if it's okay. and then actually SAT and visited with us, and it's GREAT - it EVEN HAS A REMOTE....OMG I love it. I cried.....I cried because in 18 years - I've waited for this day - a day where he SHOWED me HE CARES.....and it was awesome - except the part where I think I got snot on his tshirt - from crying - so much. But he just smiled. Just the fact that he did something he said he was going to do - is progress to me and following our rules to boot? BRAVO.
So once again I'm asking the POWER OF THE BOARD, in prayer, vibes, beads, well wishes.....more prayers to think about this kid on MOnday and keep him where he is - FIVE MILES DOWN THE ROAD FROM HIS MOTHER instead of 200 miles back in the SAME area he was before that wants to put him in jail for 15 years - (and costs more) -makes no sense.
THANKS all -
I would hope that anyone of you that is hurting or struggling or can't figure out why you keep doing what you are doing for your kids - gets to have a glimpse like I did with the stero - I'll be riding that high for a long time to come - and I do know that times like that are so rare - but I really appreciated it God.....really really.
I wanted to share this request - WE NEED THE POWER OF THE BOARD ON MONDAY - On Monday the "evil powers that be" have given Dude until then to accept their contract of moving him to Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) 200 miles from here in a concrete block facility with 20 other boys stating they feel this is what is best. WE DO NOT and veehemently disagree - he needs to stay at Fosters - they told us OKAY until he was 21 - he's making minimal progress, but FOR THE FIRST TIME IN ANY SETTING - PROGRESS.
The most incredible thing to me is that he KNOWS he has court trial to face for bogus charges regarding 15 years in prison for a crime he didn't do. We think it is profiling on the part of the local police who hated boys from the hello home - remember he almost got killed twice, no food, no potty, no heat, animal abuse? Yet DESPITE THAT 15 years staring him in the face every day - he attempts to go to school and makes it almost 3 out of 4 days for adult education. We've told him he needs to go all 4 days - he said he can't mentally do it, can we cut him back to 2? He has a 4th grade math education - and the teacher says TAKE THE TEST - you're ready - HE BOMBED IT....he's depressed, wanted a GED by Christmas as a present for me AND probation. Now he's worried. BUT still he goes.
He's FINALLY for the FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE getting along as best he can with the family he's with - he is looking for a job when there is nothing in our area - and NOTHING FOR SURE if it's convicted felon age 18 vs. out of work single mother or father willing to work for minimum wage to save their lives. (I'm not dumb - I know who I'd pick) but still he tries to get job.
He had 80 out of 100 hours of his community service completed at the hello home and the caseworker LOST his paperwork so gets with the probation officer HERE and says - Let's just start all over again. WTH?
Yet - HE GOES 1-2 days a week for 8 hours -
And despite all this? The agency still thinks moving him would away from us, (the place he goes or comes to when the world is caving in on him)
He also has made his OWN appointments for therapy - and is willing to TRY medicine - despite being on 64 medications historically - he said "Okay one more, and .....made his OWN appointment)
He has NOT gotten into any trouble with the law
He has NOT had any drugs or alcohol at age 18 in his life
He has NOT kicked holes in the wall or busted things
He has NOT been impossible to live with -
HE HAS - PUT a stereo in my car - that he WORKED HIS BUTT OFF TO GET.....and since everyone worries that he steals things took my advice and GOT A BILL OF TRADE!!!!!! (WOOOO HOOOO) then came over yesterday and put it in, he ASKED to borrow the tools, and then cleaned up everything and put stuff away - even telling us "I'm putting this away if it's okay. and then actually SAT and visited with us, and it's GREAT - it EVEN HAS A REMOTE....OMG I love it. I cried.....I cried because in 18 years - I've waited for this day - a day where he SHOWED me HE CARES.....and it was awesome - except the part where I think I got snot on his tshirt - from crying - so much. But he just smiled. Just the fact that he did something he said he was going to do - is progress to me and following our rules to boot? BRAVO.
So once again I'm asking the POWER OF THE BOARD, in prayer, vibes, beads, well wishes.....more prayers to think about this kid on MOnday and keep him where he is - FIVE MILES DOWN THE ROAD FROM HIS MOTHER instead of 200 miles back in the SAME area he was before that wants to put him in jail for 15 years - (and costs more) -makes no sense.
THANKS all -
I would hope that anyone of you that is hurting or struggling or can't figure out why you keep doing what you are doing for your kids - gets to have a glimpse like I did with the stero - I'll be riding that high for a long time to come - and I do know that times like that are so rare - but I really appreciated it God.....really really.
I'll be cheering you on from here, the girls and I!!!
