I have a very strong feeling my difficult child will receive very very few consequences for the theft. I know that my suggestions have been taken as "too harsh" for a little theft. What is a "little" theft? I thought that weekly mowing with no financial compensation for several months was getting off easy. The therapist who treated him/us for a long time felt we should press charges. My mom just felt violated. My dad was "lost", but felt that "all" teens nowadays steal from their parents. So any long-term or "major" consequences are "too much". I don't even want to know. I do know that if they don't do some real consequences involving hard physical labor, well, next time they can't send him here. I will say no. If husband says yes, well, he can then pay spousal and child support. I spent more time, energy, and everything figureing out what is going on with difficult child, and then treating it than any other person. Every single thing I suggest is ridiculed, or I am told is not appropriate. As this is the case, they can ALL just handle him without me. PERIOD. I love him, but I will only tolerate so much. No more feeling guilty because he doesnt' "live with us". He is in the lap of luxury and has much lower academic expectations and is PAID for contributing to the family. This is my parents' choice. I won't own guilt for having them raise this child. I appreciate it, to a point. I truly think difficult child would have done better if we had gone through the courts and gotten him into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). But there is very little I can do.