Hello everyone--
My difficult child has a bad habit of bringing home things that do not belong to her. When we find suspicious candy, gum, makeup etc...we confront her (which is always a nasty scene) and confiscate the stuff we found.
A couple of weeks ago, I found more makeup that appeared out of nowhere...and wanting to avoid all the drama...I just threw it away and didn't say anything.
The past week, she has been stomping around miserable and cranky and accusing DS of stealing and other crimes in an effort to get him in trouble with husband and I. (BUT, she won't actually say why she is so angry at him). I assume that difficult child thinks her brother STOLE the makeup (but of course, won't say that she thinks her brother stole from her something she wasn't supposed to have in the first place...) , so I am only guessing...
Last night was the worst! She came up with a convoluted story about tying a necklace to a shampoo bottle and now the arrowhead charm has been removed from the necklace and we need to go search DS's room RIGHT NOW! My first reaction was to NOT believe her, of course, and her reaction was to get very angry. Everyone went to bed upset and I promised that I would search the bedrooms for this missing charm in the morning.
So this morning, husband decided he would tell her that I was the one who threw out the stuff she is missing and sent her off to school.
As promised, I searched the bedrooms and came up with nothing...
But now, I am worried about what happens when difficult child comes home today. Will she be all mad at me? And will it be because I didn't find anything or because I threw away stolen makeup? Or, will she be mad at DS because I didn't find anything and so he is not in trouble?
I don't know how to approach these "I'm-mad-so-I'm-gonna-take-my-anger-out-on-SOMEBODY" situations. They usually get ugly and violent. But that's exactly what I expect from her when she walks through the door today...
Any ideas? How can I stop it before it begins?
--DaisyFace
My difficult child has a bad habit of bringing home things that do not belong to her. When we find suspicious candy, gum, makeup etc...we confront her (which is always a nasty scene) and confiscate the stuff we found.
A couple of weeks ago, I found more makeup that appeared out of nowhere...and wanting to avoid all the drama...I just threw it away and didn't say anything.
The past week, she has been stomping around miserable and cranky and accusing DS of stealing and other crimes in an effort to get him in trouble with husband and I. (BUT, she won't actually say why she is so angry at him). I assume that difficult child thinks her brother STOLE the makeup (but of course, won't say that she thinks her brother stole from her something she wasn't supposed to have in the first place...) , so I am only guessing...
Last night was the worst! She came up with a convoluted story about tying a necklace to a shampoo bottle and now the arrowhead charm has been removed from the necklace and we need to go search DS's room RIGHT NOW! My first reaction was to NOT believe her, of course, and her reaction was to get very angry. Everyone went to bed upset and I promised that I would search the bedrooms for this missing charm in the morning.
So this morning, husband decided he would tell her that I was the one who threw out the stuff she is missing and sent her off to school.
As promised, I searched the bedrooms and came up with nothing...
But now, I am worried about what happens when difficult child comes home today. Will she be all mad at me? And will it be because I didn't find anything or because I threw away stolen makeup? Or, will she be mad at DS because I didn't find anything and so he is not in trouble?
I don't know how to approach these "I'm-mad-so-I'm-gonna-take-my-anger-out-on-SOMEBODY" situations. They usually get ugly and violent. But that's exactly what I expect from her when she walks through the door today...
Any ideas? How can I stop it before it begins?
--DaisyFace