I am seeking advice for my grandson. He is a 9 year old, very spirited little guy, my whole world. Sadly, his world is in chaos. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I feel it's not so much ADHD as it is ODD. We can handle him however school is a whole other issue. He is currently being medicated, not the route we want to go, school says otherwise. He is hellbound and determined that he is not going to school. Period. He begs me not to make him go. Today I got yet another call to come pick him up. He was throwing chairs at the staff this time. He is very defiant with any authority figure, and in his head he needs to be in control of whatever is happening. Once he starts feeling he is not in control, all hell breaks loose. This is not a case of spoiled child syndrome. He gets disciplined, loses priveledges etc. Our issues include lost jobs, having to be at the school so often, he gets insane angry to the point of hitting, kicking, screaming, throwing things, damaging walls in my house and so on. He is involved with people and programs that supposedly are thete to help him. Doctors don't listen. We are doing all we know how to do. Our fear is that at some point we will be dealing with social services and I won't have it. He is not going to become another statistic, another lost kid. There has to be a way to break thru and get our little guy to settle down. The negative behaviour started when he was 3 and he was diagnosed at 5. Any suggestions??