Things have been going well so far since difficult child and I have started communicating again. He's visited with me four weekends, three of them with his girlfriend whom I like very much. We speak on the phone about once a week, just to say hi. He's still working full time and in school part time. I've invited them both for Thanksgiving. I can tell he's still not taking medications but I don't bring it up. He's an adult and if he chooses to struggle it's his business. As long as he is well behaved and respectful around me he's welcome to visit. Also, I'm going to be a grandma again. My daughter is due in March (her fourth and hopefully last!) I wish they had waited a little longer to give her body time to recover from all the radiation but the doctor felt it was ok.