Sam posted this over in WC - I wanted to make sure she (he? - sorry, not sure ) gets some feedback. Welcome, Sam! Glad you found us! I am brand new to this site, and I apologize if I am not following the proper protocol or if I am posting in the wrong forum. If I am, please advise me how to proceed. I am looking for some insights on how to advise my sister with her son, who we all believe has ODD. He's an exceptionally bright boy, but he is also exceptionally defiant and getting violent. Lately, he has had rage episodes every few weeks, severe enough that the police have been called on two occasions and he's been hospitalized. The problem is, his mother -- my sister -- doesn't see the severity of his behavior. She makes excuses for it or pretends it's not as bad as it is. She is completely resistant to any suggestions from her family and friends. Meanwhile, she and her son are increasingly isolated (she's divorced), living under constant stress. She worries that she won't be able to keep her job, that managing her son's behavior will become a full-time job. Yet she won't accept help or advice. I'm not a parent, so I'm in no position to tell my sister what to do. She loves her son and would do anything for him. But nothing is working. Any advice on how to help her would be much appreciated.