Well today hit a whole new level

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by PatriotsGirl, Aug 22, 2012.

  1. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    difficult child stopped by on Saturday with a friend of hers. Apparently, her and this friend went to a car dealership and looked at a 2006 Camry. Hmmm, funny, she has a 2002 Camry... anyhow, they took it for a test drive and apparently did the switch a roo on the keys. difficult child had more than one key to her car. She is seen on camera at midnight dropping the friend off and the friend left with the car. Unbelievable. So the woman that owns the dealership looked difficult child up in Facebook and through that, found me. She just stopped here and gave us the entire run down. I called difficult child and handed the phone to the woman. I overheard difficult child and was completely disgusted, denied everything all while screaming and cussing at this woman. Said she didn't know who the guy was and then finally told them to get the name from me because it was the same friend that was with her on Saturday. I helped the woman and gave her both difficult child's number and I just happened to have the guy's phone number that stole the car. They were also able to find difficult child's boyfriend through Facebook and the woman told difficult child that she had the address and the police were headed there. Nice. difficult child is due in court tomorrow. This lady knows that. I tell difficult child she is on camera and she still swears it wasn't her. Are you kidding me???

    Accessory to grand theft auto. Lovely. husband said that was the final straw and that she is not allowed in this house anymore. I texted her and told her not to come here. We want nothing to do with any of this. Sad thing is, neither of us are shocked in the least. Just disappointed as usual...and praying, really praying she goes to jail. Please cross everything you have that she goes to jail...
  2. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    OMG! You poor thing. I feel so badly for you. I will cross my fingers for jail because perhaps that will make her think hard and want to change her life. Hoping for longer term for the boyfriend. He sounds like a real loser.
  3. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Sad thing is, he wasn't involved. This was a friend of hers that just got out of jail not that long ago. But I bet boyfriend will not be happy if the police show up there!! She may have finally done this relationship in with this one. My daughter is a criminal.
  4. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry that you are having to go through all the emotions that go with this situation. I hope this is a wake up call for your child.
  5. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry, PG. It seems like she was bound and determined to screw up her life no matter how much you tried to help. Maybe some time in jail will finally be her wake up call.


  6. 92025

    92025 Member

    oh brother! that is ridiculous! got my fingers crossed for jail for her; sometimes that is what does the trick for some people.
  7. buddy

    buddy New Member

    oh wow PG, sending you a huge hug. My heart aches for you. I hope your wish comes true, jail sounds like the safest thing at this point. Stealing a car? oh wow. Hang tough, we are here for you....
  8. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry PG. I have no words that can make this better for you. I'm sure you must think this is a nightmare. I pray for you and your difficult child, it's all I can do.

  9. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    PG, i know your heart has been breaking for a while now. I understand why you pray for jail...jail equals some level of peace.

    Its just so very sad. Im sending you prayers...hope you can rest.
  10. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    What in the world would difficult child have gotten out of being an accessory to grand theft auto? She just got an old car from you - I just can't figure it out - why put herself in that situation for zero return esp. with a court date looming? Even for a difficult child, there's just no explanation.
    I am sorry for you and husband. This is not going to go well for her, and I do hope she spends time in jail if that's what you want, because that will at least keep her off drugs and let her see what she's really done to herself. Hugs and sighs. Sorry.
  11. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    That is exactly it. I don't get it. Here I was hoping she would get the car and get a job and finally start building a life for herself and she uses it to be an accessory to grand theft auto. I heard the way she was screaming at this woman on the phone. The woman was telling difficult child that she could get out of it completely if she just gave her the name of the guy. You would think difficult child would have instantly shut her mouth and told her who it was. She continued screaming and cussing and even threatened this woman that if she ended up going to jail for this, she was going to hunt her down (the woman didn't let her get any further before she started yelling back). difficult child accused her of being involved with the police (wierd paranoia stuff there) because the woman told difficult child that she knows many of her friends on Facebook (we live in a very small town). I am just still shaking my head. I don't get it...

    Add this to the two checks she cashed for someone a while back that she supposedly didn't know they were stolen. She hasn't been caught for that one, yet, but I am sure it is a matter of time.

    Oh and she got her first speeding ticket going 19 miles over the speeding limit. Yeah, that she has zero money to pay for.

    I am just done. I feel like a lot of this is my fault for giving her the car. I should have never given her the benefit of the doubt. I messed up badly.
  12. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    In retrospect, it may look like you messed up badly by giving her the car, but you didn't. You're thinking like a rational, non-difficult child with the best of intentions, hoping she would appreciate and utilize your gift appropriately. No harm there. Substance abusers don't visualize the likely outcomes of their impulsive acts. Drugs are leading her to an entirely different trajectory than the road you would take. If she can't use her freedom properly, then her freedom will be removed from her - that's it. You've done everything and more - I'm just sorry these events happened. Thank God no one was physically harmed in the process. They usually start off being sorry they're caught, and then hopefully progress to more insightful thinking and self reflection and finally, change. Let's hope. Stay strong.
  13. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I agree with CJ. You gave her a chance PG, you are not responsible for what she did with that chance. Now you know, you have seen a side of her that helps you detach further. We will never stop loving our difficult child's but there comes a point where we stop helping them and you have reached that. She needs far more help than you can give her and she has to want it and right now she doesn't. Conserve your energy for the time hopefully that she wants to make some positive change.

  14. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    I just called the woman who owns the dealership to ask if anything came out of giving her the phone numbers last night. She said she was actually on the other line with the Sheriff's office and would call me back. I am assuming since they did not get the car back last night that they are going to turn the video footage over the to the Sheriff's department. Since they are turning over the surveillance, I am assuming that difficult child will be implicated as an accessory. I don't think there is any getting around that now...now the question remains, is she going to run or show up for court? I am sure this is not helping my current anxiety issue and I really, really think I need to get on something for medications. Think I will make a trip to my doctor today...
  15. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Sad. Just had a long talk with the woman who feels beyond badly that she is having to turn anyone in. It is in the police's hands now - they are due to pick up the video surveillance within two hours and will most likely issue warrants. I am sure they will be by here to question me.

    Sad thing is she said she has a cousin that is a drug addict, same doctor, and she could tell difficult child was a drug addict, too. She told me that she called difficult child again last night from the dealership and offered her a reward for the car. difficult child said while she could use the money, she won't put herself in that position.

    Please help me to detach and stay detached. I have not worked one minute today between this and worrying about my health. :(
  16. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    PG... get to the doctor. The last thing you need is to wreck your health "worrying about your health". I feel for you - been in situations that produce the same effect... but you DO have to go get help. For YOU.
  17. toughlovin

    toughlovin Guest

    Oh PG i a so so sorry you are going through this. It just amazes me the stupid insane decisions our difficult children make? It is beyond understanding. I hope your difficult child does get picked up for this, it may be her best chance. I am starting to hope something similar for my difficult child....cause i dont know what else will help.


  18. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    The lies just keep coming....she sends a text saying her friend was not the one to pick up the car, however he wrecked it a couple of nights ago falling asleep at the wheel?? And that she was supposedly with boyfriend in another town so she doesn't care - she didn't do anything. I said well, they will be able to blow up the image on the video and can tell if it is you or not. I also told her they will be able to trace the car key that they received back from her and if it doesn't match her car, she should be fine. HA. Unbelievable. She really expects people to buy this kukka. She was supposed to be at court for 1:30...hope she was texting me from inside the courtroom...(rolling eyes large here).
  19. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    I have almost every symptom of an ovarian cyst - both sides. Hurts sometimes like a mofo. I did make an appointment with my specialist but due to my trip to Chicago next week, I can't get in to see her until September 4th. I took Advil and I am sitting here with a heating pad that is helping a lot, but really want to go lie down. I didn't sleep a wink last night.
  20. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    She went to court. She got a $400 dollar fine and a ($100 or 100 hours?) impulse class along with 40 hours of community service. I asked her if she told them that she has no money and she said yes and they told her she better figure something out. She won't...her days are numbered. Wonder how long before she violates. I am pretty sure if you have a fine to pay and have community service to perform, that means you have to report to a probation officer, correct? I know I had to until I paid my fine off - course, I paid mine in the first visit. But she has nothing and I don't foresee her getting this money together especially by November 29th! I was given a year! Hmmm, perhaps they are knowing she is going to fail....? Shouldn't matter soon anyway if she gets a warrant out on her...