I've had it with my 12 year old son! We don't know how to discipline him in the moment of his "behaviors". I don't mean after he's calmed down or before as prevention. We've tried all that. I need to do something when he's in the behavior - being disrespectful, rude, and mean. Swearing and telling me he hates me, stealing, hurting siblings, breaking things. His behaviors can't be ignored. He refuses to do what he's told and he does not care about anything! He would "love" to go to his room and just go to bed. So we put him on "time - ins" until he "chooses" to change his behavior but this can be hours and hours. We keep him close, but he drives us nuts with trying to pick apart the wall, he yells and makes noise. He's starting to refuse "time-ins". There is no video game, toys, sports, activity, etc. that can be taken away to stop his behaviors. He doesn't care what you take away from him. What do you do? How do or would you handle your son 's behavior when nothing you've tried so far works? And we know he's capable of behaving because he did before. Please help! I appreciate any ideas or things that have worked if you've ever been in a similar situation.