NO control over bowels, isn't interested in controlling bowels....doesn't care, won't, can't, isn't....???? difficult child is 14 1/2 and no matter what, he isn't controlling his bowels and never has. After fourteen years of this, I'm tired. We've been to gastroenterologists, pediatricians, psychologists, psychiatrists.....you get my gist. We've not punished, we've punished, I've cried, husband has threatened, he has taken Benefiber (and all the rest), we've tried altering his diet, we've ignored it. Now that he's bigger than I am....I call it man poop.....floating in the washer and has to be fished out. I have him do it if he's home, but it has no impact on him. When will this end? Way back in the Dark Ages, they put children in a home who couldn't control their bowels. I'm SO frustrated and so freakin' tired of doing this and having my home smell like an outhouse all the time. What could be his problem? What can I do? To me it's the single biggest problem in our home.....husband disagrees, he says it's the defiance, but it also isn't husband who's cleaning it up many times a day.