TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
I've been thinking about the posts that talk about ignoring bad behavior and I'm still at a loss as to what to do about my difficult child's snottiness toward me. His outbursts and physical struggles with-me have all but ceased (yay!) and I feel ready to tackle his rudeness.
When he doesn't want to do something (which is most of the time, and in particular, when he hasn't had his medications) he will imitate me, and exaggerate it with-a nasty expression, curled lip, raised shoulder, etc.
I used to bark right back at him, but that would exacerbate the situation. Now when I calmly say, "That's disrespectful. We don't do that here," he imitates that, too.
So I've started withholding priviliges but then he says, "I don't CARE!" (You know that scenario, LOL!). It seems that the response needs to be immediate, almost like a dog, where they forget if there's too long of a time period between the transgression and the response.
Sometimes I just turn my back and walk away, which actually works well to at least stem the flow of obnoxiousness, because he's lost his audience. But I really want him to just stop it immediately.
Advice?
When he doesn't want to do something (which is most of the time, and in particular, when he hasn't had his medications) he will imitate me, and exaggerate it with-a nasty expression, curled lip, raised shoulder, etc.
I used to bark right back at him, but that would exacerbate the situation. Now when I calmly say, "That's disrespectful. We don't do that here," he imitates that, too.
So I've started withholding priviliges but then he says, "I don't CARE!" (You know that scenario, LOL!). It seems that the response needs to be immediate, almost like a dog, where they forget if there's too long of a time period between the transgression and the response.
Sometimes I just turn my back and walk away, which actually works well to at least stem the flow of obnoxiousness, because he's lost his audience. But I really want him to just stop it immediately.
Advice?