As you know, I jjoined facebook and starting really getting into more a couple of weeks ago. I've reconnected with people from all major phases of my life, and of course some here have made me their friend. Well, many of the people I've been chatting with are people I went to middle and high schools with and they didn't/don't know the horrid details of the family situation. However, my X did and he later married one of my best friends from high school, and she did know. She would have been the only past friend still living that knew except that since I ended up being her H's ex, she probably told her sis, that I had previosuly been friends with too- good friends. Anyway, the sis just joined FB and a mutual friend from way back suggested the sis request a friendship from me- which is now sitting in my box. Would you accept? I would have no problem if I knew that the sis wasn't really there to pass info to and from my ex's widow (he died about 5-10 years ago) And I wouldn't even mind either of them being friends with me on FB- I just don't want it to turn into a pathway for gossip and I don't want them blabbing about my personal besiness from 30 years ago to people I'm reconnecting with. But I have no way to know their intent. And the mutual friend that suggested this friendship has probably maintained a friendship with both the sisters because they have all stayed in the town we grew up in. And for those that have been on FB a while, is it common for it to turn into a cliqueish thing or used to pump people about others' business and other negative things - I mean for adults, not teen bullies.