My eyes, my eyes. thank you was home for a visit this weekend (went well). While here, he wanted some help on his myspace (gag) site. Being the devious woman I am, I helped him get a background up, some music, convinced him to change his name to an alias and delete the city he's currently living in, in the process also gaining access to his password not only for myspace but for his yahoo email (and I'd like to have a long discussion with- the doggone Residential Treatment Center (RTC) school about what they are *thinking* letting the kids have essentially unlimited internet access...grrr - discussion moot at this point given his upcoming move). Bottom line, my son is *far* more into this magic junk than I suspected, going as far as contacting anonymous adults from who knows where (where is domain rr.com???) about joining magic organizations. His sole friend who was in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and has moved on to transitional program where thank you will be going... well, I understand myspace is not necessarily a realistic representation of a person but that combined with- his emails to thank you... this kid is severely disturbed. But then again... apparently so is my son. On the one hand, I need to know how far he's gone (or how far gone he is) but on the other hand if I push too hard he's going to figure out I have access to his email and will change password. Is it better to know and try to address in a round about way or address head on, knowing that I will lose ability to monitor? Selfishly, I'm really wondering if I want to know about this cr*p. I really don't see that I have much power to change it or moderate it at all. He's very determined. Also worry about this new placement but... on the other hand, thank you being thank you, he will seek out fellow "believers" in magic regardless of where he is. Is it better to deal with- the known disturbed people in his life or deal with- unknown? And it's not like there is any other placement option. husband did find an opening to discuss this with- him on trip back to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). husband's comment on the entire discussion is that thank you needs to join the rest of us in reality. Aside from that fact that he thinks we're attacking his spirituality, he actually *believes* in spells and incantations and thinks the only way the world is going to become a better place is through magic. husband (bless his heart, not being the fastest man on his feet) failed to point out that if magic could cure all that ails the world, it would have happened a *long* time ago. I understand the teen angst of "the world bites, there's so much wrong, yada yada". I do *not* understand this belief in magic. It scares the stuffing out me simply because I think his grasp on reality is tenuous at best. This particular version of magic appears to embrace detaching from reality. Perfect. Short trip for thank you. I don't know - do you fight it? Do you let it go? Do you accept defeat? I mean, really, insert drugs or sex or booze for magic, and is it any different, and do we really have the power to do more than educate about potential for bad outcomes and then just sit back and pray, especially when they're not in your home? And how do you educate a kid whose thought processes are a little bit goofy to begin with? He *will* seek out these people - short of locking him in a room 24/7, I honestly don't think there's any way around it. I'm really quite scared for him and I don't know what to do or even if I should be doing anything.