Ok, let's see if you guys can help me brainstorm and, hopefully, decide on what preschool would be best for difficult child.
Last year, he was at a faith based preschool, never really complained about going but would just stay alone all day. I don't believe he learned anything there but they were VERY loving and caring. They though difficult child was the perfect little child!! At home, he was my little monster of course and, believe me, not withdrawn at all! lol
Anyway, this year I've switched to our local Head Start for 2 reasons: my oldest son was there and learning so much! And, yes, Head Start is free for us.
Well, this year is a different story: my oldest son has not learn a single thing despite trying to talk to the teacher. She said she would give him more appropriate work but never did (oldest son is a little ahead when it comes to academics and doing the alphabet over and over does get old for him...). On the other, difficult child stayed completly withdrawn for the first 7 months and the teacher had absolutly nothing to say about that. She admitted she had never seen that in a child (except a little girl who could not speak English). After a lot of talking with difficult child, he finally started talking with his classmates (first just one, then 2 and now I believe 5? or so) but he also exhibited unappropriate behaviors (hitting, annoying, pushing). Well, I never found out about those behaviors until the teacher filled out the questionnaire for the developmental pediatrician... you would think it's something I'd like to know?!
Now, what do I do: put him back in his previous school that actually cares and talks with the parents? Let him stay at Head Start that does not really care but where his new friends are? As far as academics, I'm pretty convinced they can't help him at either school... I've talked to the school district and the Special Education. manager told me that she could schedule some intervention in his class (that's really good!).
What would you do?
ps: willing to pay if the faith based daycare was found to be better for him.
Last year, he was at a faith based preschool, never really complained about going but would just stay alone all day. I don't believe he learned anything there but they were VERY loving and caring. They though difficult child was the perfect little child!! At home, he was my little monster of course and, believe me, not withdrawn at all! lol
Anyway, this year I've switched to our local Head Start for 2 reasons: my oldest son was there and learning so much! And, yes, Head Start is free for us.
Well, this year is a different story: my oldest son has not learn a single thing despite trying to talk to the teacher. She said she would give him more appropriate work but never did (oldest son is a little ahead when it comes to academics and doing the alphabet over and over does get old for him...). On the other, difficult child stayed completly withdrawn for the first 7 months and the teacher had absolutly nothing to say about that. She admitted she had never seen that in a child (except a little girl who could not speak English). After a lot of talking with difficult child, he finally started talking with his classmates (first just one, then 2 and now I believe 5? or so) but he also exhibited unappropriate behaviors (hitting, annoying, pushing). Well, I never found out about those behaviors until the teacher filled out the questionnaire for the developmental pediatrician... you would think it's something I'd like to know?!
Now, what do I do: put him back in his previous school that actually cares and talks with the parents? Let him stay at Head Start that does not really care but where his new friends are? As far as academics, I'm pretty convinced they can't help him at either school... I've talked to the school district and the Special Education. manager told me that she could schedule some intervention in his class (that's really good!).
What would you do?
ps: willing to pay if the faith based daycare was found to be better for him.