My dad is always blaming me when it comes to my difficult children. I'm too hard on them, I never let them slide, yada yada yada. I love my dad and usually we get along great (and you have no idea how hard it was to type that right now with how mad I am), but we had a neuropysch visit today so we had to leave all the kids with him. My 3 difficult children were in trouble so there were on punishment and my dad plays the gray area with them and they're all playing when we get in. Then when I tell him how upset I am with them taking advantage of him, he says "Fine, I'm never watching any of your (fowl word here) kids again, ever". My husband tried to explain to him I was mad at my difficult children and not him, but I'd had it at that point. I try to make life easier for everyone around here by being very black and white with my difficult children if they are left with my dad, yet everytime without fail they do something they're not supposed to do with supposable permission from grandpa. Then to be cussed out by my father, what on earth? This is not behavior that he does, but he does always blame me if one of my difficult children is in trouble. Usually in a much milder form. Its always because I'm too hard on them or I should learn to ignore it, yada yada yada. At what point does he realize I'm not trying to be a jerk I just want to give them exact instructions because that is the language they speak. That I want his decision making left out of the equasion because if he gives any input at all, they go off the deep end. It has been awhile since I left him in charge during awake hours because this happens everytime. Even if difficult children aren't in trouble when I leave, by the time I'm back they have stolen something, snuck something or done something bad. We just didn't have a choice today and this is what I get for explaining to dear old dad why I was trying to leave him out of it.