DC1 comes home from work, and seems in bad mood . At dinner table t talk about the positive feedback I have received about DC1 from a friend, Dan, who works where son just interviewed and landed a better job. Son retorts:" Well maybe I will just go move in with Dan then". I could sense he wanted ro get into an argument, so I stayed absolutely quiet . Husband retorted something, DC1 laughed sarcastically, an I decided to walk away at that point. When I came back into kitchen to clean up, DC1 says to me :" I just said that at the table because something interesting came up at the therapist's office . She wanted to know if my parents ever congratulated me on the job at (this other not so great company he works at now). And I had to tell her no, they did not. I normally don't defend or explain myself anymore, but in this case, I very calmly and quietly said "I remember congratulating you because I remember telling you how you were such a go getter with that position because you followed up the application with an in person visit which led to the interview that landed you the job. And I told you I was proud of you". And he says "oh, yeah, you did". I forgot about that". I also bought him the required shoes for the position, took him on a shopping trip for it and we shared a lunch . He got the shakes, I got the burgers. I just don't understand why we keep catching so much flack from our children, both, and get accused of being unsupportive and unloving when we are being anything but .Why can't they recognize we are good parents?