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Kjs
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Geez..I worry when he is not doing well, and I worry when he IS doing well.
When difficult child first started middle school he had so many kids calling him all the time. (not very good kids) He fell into the "I want to be popular" crowd. Luckily Last summer he decided those kids weren't for him, and got involved with the cheerleading kids. Well towards the end of school, he had really no friends. This summer he hasn't gotten any phone calls from anyone. If I ask him to call someone he replies, "they hate me" or "they hang around with someone who hates me". so, I don't push it. He stays home almost every day. Rarely goes outside. Seems happy, but I know he would jump at the chance to do something with someone. He plays baseball, but again he tells me he doesn't get along with the kids on his team. He gets along with them only for baseball. I feel sad for him. When I ask him if he wants to go somewhere or do something, Like the water park..he says just the two of us. Won't even ask anyone.
husband thinks he is afraid to ask because everyone always says no.
Recently found out one of easy child's new friends is a sister to one of difficult child's old friend. Wealthy family, kid had everything he could ask for. He is in Juvy, and according to his sister he is no longer the families responsibility. Will not live at home again.
Many of difficult child's ex-friends are in trouble with the law and/or drinking and drugs. So, I find myself wondering if difficult child is making good choices, or if what he says is true...Nobody likes me.
He is now under 90 pounds, and does nothing besides baseball which will probably end tonight. He seems happy though. husband thinks he is just pretending. Why would he pretend?? difficult child does not confide in me about friend issues. I sometimes ask how someone is doing, and he just replies, nobody likes me.
So..should I be feeling sad and worried for him, or should I be happy? He is such a social kid, always was a busy kid. Just odd to see him hanging around the house every day.
When difficult child first started middle school he had so many kids calling him all the time. (not very good kids) He fell into the "I want to be popular" crowd. Luckily Last summer he decided those kids weren't for him, and got involved with the cheerleading kids. Well towards the end of school, he had really no friends. This summer he hasn't gotten any phone calls from anyone. If I ask him to call someone he replies, "they hate me" or "they hang around with someone who hates me". so, I don't push it. He stays home almost every day. Rarely goes outside. Seems happy, but I know he would jump at the chance to do something with someone. He plays baseball, but again he tells me he doesn't get along with the kids on his team. He gets along with them only for baseball. I feel sad for him. When I ask him if he wants to go somewhere or do something, Like the water park..he says just the two of us. Won't even ask anyone.
husband thinks he is afraid to ask because everyone always says no.
Recently found out one of easy child's new friends is a sister to one of difficult child's old friend. Wealthy family, kid had everything he could ask for. He is in Juvy, and according to his sister he is no longer the families responsibility. Will not live at home again.
Many of difficult child's ex-friends are in trouble with the law and/or drinking and drugs. So, I find myself wondering if difficult child is making good choices, or if what he says is true...Nobody likes me.
He is now under 90 pounds, and does nothing besides baseball which will probably end tonight. He seems happy though. husband thinks he is just pretending. Why would he pretend?? difficult child does not confide in me about friend issues. I sometimes ask how someone is doing, and he just replies, nobody likes me.
So..should I be feeling sad and worried for him, or should I be happy? He is such a social kid, always was a busy kid. Just odd to see him hanging around the house every day.