this afternoon. He is growing up more quickly now that he is out on his own. And despite his recent arrest for possession (of a baggie with residue), he is doing really well. He is working all the time. He went almost four weeks without a day off. He works double shifts when he is needed. husband and I have taken to going in his rest/bar at least once a week, and the owners have nothing but praise for difficult child. I called him to ask him to think about speaking to another young man who is dealing with some anxiety and depression. The boy's mother is one of my best friends, and she mentioned having difficult child talk to her son. I wanted to clear with him before I told her yes. He said he'd be glad to talk to the boy. Then we started talking about his anxiety. He explained to me how he has learned to cope with things. He surprised me by saying that one of his triggers in school was those bubble tests. He said he would sit and look at all those bubbles and he would just freak knowing he had to get to the end. He said work is a lot like that. If he looks at all he has to do, he freaks. So he has learned to look at just one task at a time---to try and focus on that task. Of course he said that pot is also a big help. He said I know you don't want to hear it, and you probably don't believe it, but is really helps me to calm down with the anxiety is really bad. He said I can't take any of the benzos because I will abuse them...but I don't abuse the pot. I can schedule my use. I didn't argue or fuss---because it wouldn't do any good. And he already knows my feelings about drugs. All in all it was a good talk with no raised voices and a lot of dialogue.