Abbey
Spork Queen
It is not pretty. Part of the reason I came back here was I knew H couldn't/wouldn't take the time to watch over his dad. He refuses to believe that there is a problem although he sees things happening over and over again. He's smart...he'll figure it out. Yeah, thanks for the help, H.
Yesterday I look out my back door to see father in law trying to climb a ladder on to the roof. Dropped everything and ran over there. Why are you climbing onto the roof? Ummm...couldn't come up with an answer. Fast forward 45 minutes of talking him down and he finally remembered. He was going to go clean the gutters.
NO.
He gets angry. If I want to clean my gutters, I'll damn well will clean them.
NO. I take the ladder and put it in my basement. I go back over into the house looking through the phone book to call someone to do this job. He's happy as a lark...whatcha doing, Deb? Calling someone to clean your gutters. Oh, do they need cleaning?
It's getting close to that time that the family deal with this. He needs someone to monitor him 24/7. They are all in denial. He's not even my dad for pete's sake. The problem is that he's fine for a day or two then can't remember his own name. He drives, yet has to carry a card with our phone number on it because he doesn't know where he is or why he came out.
I've suggested to the family NO DRIVING. I've suggested someone being a live in to just monitor him and take him places. I'm leaving in 2 days and worry about who is going to watch him. It places a huge guilt trip on me and I'm beginning to resent that. Yes, H works a lot and travels. Yes, mother in law gets out because she can't deal with this. It's crushing her. But throw me a bone here! At least consider some of my suggestions.
Argh.
I'm off to more important things (haha...not) like what I'm going to wear to my reunion.
Thanks for the vent.
Abbey
Yesterday I look out my back door to see father in law trying to climb a ladder on to the roof. Dropped everything and ran over there. Why are you climbing onto the roof? Ummm...couldn't come up with an answer. Fast forward 45 minutes of talking him down and he finally remembered. He was going to go clean the gutters.
NO.
He gets angry. If I want to clean my gutters, I'll damn well will clean them.
NO. I take the ladder and put it in my basement. I go back over into the house looking through the phone book to call someone to do this job. He's happy as a lark...whatcha doing, Deb? Calling someone to clean your gutters. Oh, do they need cleaning?
It's getting close to that time that the family deal with this. He needs someone to monitor him 24/7. They are all in denial. He's not even my dad for pete's sake. The problem is that he's fine for a day or two then can't remember his own name. He drives, yet has to carry a card with our phone number on it because he doesn't know where he is or why he came out.
I've suggested to the family NO DRIVING. I've suggested someone being a live in to just monitor him and take him places. I'm leaving in 2 days and worry about who is going to watch him. It places a huge guilt trip on me and I'm beginning to resent that. Yes, H works a lot and travels. Yes, mother in law gets out because she can't deal with this. It's crushing her. But throw me a bone here! At least consider some of my suggestions.
Argh.
I'm off to more important things (haha...not) like what I'm going to wear to my reunion.
Thanks for the vent.
Abbey