Because I could swear he must've left it someplace.This past week he has been unusually careless in his choice of words and he has said some pretty hurtful things that were clearly not well thought out in terms of impact on others or even accuracy. Tuesday he started telling difficult child 2 and I about his mother's wish for one of our kids to come spend a day with her and possibly spend the night. And in the same breath he turned to difficult child 2 and said, "Oh yeah, but she said probably not you because she can't control you and you get too wild for her."difficult child 2 and I just looked at him and then at each other with the same shocked expression. I said I couldn't believe he could say something like that OUT LOUD to difficult child 2, and did he realize how mean that was to say? And how could his MOTHER say such a thing? Then I reminded him that it was his MOTHER who was out of control the last time she was asked to take care of the kids (four years ago when husband had brain surgery) and she got mad at difficult child 2 for talking back and slapped him (he was just barely 11 at the time)! We came in the house to a hysterically sobbing boy (it had just happened) who wanted his grandparents to just leave and never come back, and a flustered and indignant senior citizen who promptly left the next day (THANK GOD). But I digress. difficult child 2 asked what she was basing her comment on and husband said well that's how you used to be and difficult child 2 yells "Well I'm not like that anymore!!! Geez, Dad!!!" Then tonight he came home from work and he's upstairs lying in bed, eating dinner, playing spider solitaire and listening to me tell him about my day when he said something about something easy child did to him this week. She's starting to try to manipulate him and play for more time when she's asked to do some job or chore by him to avoid doing it altogether. I made a comment about the behavior being manipulative and he says, "She's just like her mom." I'm thinking WTF? I demanded to know what he meant by that because I am the most UNmanipulative person he knows! I do not coerce him, I do not bribe him, I do not trick or cajole him. If I want him to do something I ask. If I don't want to do something I say so. He starts turning it into a conversation about SEX (because apparently he's not getting what he wants right now) and somehow I'm a manipulator because he's not getting what he wants from me. It dawns on me he's just talking out of his ä$$ again, but dang it is MADDENING!!! He is an intelligent person, but lately his brain is NOT working.